[danahoover]

My Father was a doctor that delivered me at home.
Him and my step mother filed a delayed bith certificate with them both as my Parents and raised me.
Now I am trying to care for them and the Ombudsman person told me that I have no rights for they never legaly adopted me.
Is this true?
I have no rights in the state of Ca to make sure they get the care they need.

[tickle]

Where is this 'ombudsman' from? Why is he involved with you and your parents?

You say your father 'was' a doctor, is he no longer a doctor?

If you want us to help you have to explain more of your situation.

Is money an issue, for their care, and you are trying to get funding to support them within their careplan?
Tick

[ScottGem]

Reading between the lines here, I'm guessing your father had an affair and got some woman pregnant. Your mother gave birth privately (not in a hospital) and falsified a birth certificate listing his wife as the mother.

Fast forward to present times and you are trying to get some sort of aid to care for them. Somehow they found out that the birth certificate was falsified and therefore you have no legal connection to them to apply for aid.

Is that the story?

If so I would STRONGLY suggest you consult an attorney to try and make some sense of this. This is too complex a situation to try and repair without legal counsel.

If my guess about the situation is correct your father may have broken several laws. You don't even know if he is really your father. And it looks like the state is going to make him pay for it now.

[danahoover]

My Father is now 96 always was a doctor,just to old now and my mother is 84
My dad has a lady called there care taker that did not take care of my mom.She ended up in the hospital with bed sores the size of your hands all the way to the bone,she can not walk and her weight is 80lbs.
She almost died. Also all there money is gone $68,000 gone from the bank.Spent by the care taker
I called adult protective services to have the care taker removed so I can get someone else in but my dad told them he wants her to stay and he wanted her to have the money.And that I am not his child for there was no legal adoption papers filed.Even if he and my mom are on my because
They have land that I put my name on 2 years ago to keep this woman from selling and she has told my dad and the lady from the Ombudsman that I only want there land.
My mother is still in the care home and I am fighting to keep her there until I can remove the care taker.
They have no money left only the land and I wanted to get them on Medical to help cover the cost.Give the land to the state.
Bottom line my dad loves this woman care taker who is 40 and told the care home to keep my mom.

[ScottGem]

So that's how they found out. Well you could have DNA testing done to confirm whether one or both are your natural parents. But if they aren't then you may lose any legal standing.

[joypulv]

Very sad. Keep fighting. For your mother at least. Your father has made his bed and that's that.

[danahoover]

My father did not get the woman Pregnant.They housed her till she delivered.He delivered me and kept me.
There are 3 of us that this happened to.I had to call them last night and tell them

With this mess comes a new set of problems.Who am I?is my ssn good.Do I need to change my name? Is my passport good.
All I can do is cry

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[ScottGem]

First, please don't use the Comments feature for followups. As you can see Comments are limited. Use the Answer options.

How do you know he didn't get her pregnant? But if he didn't, then he is not your father, biologically or legally.

Your SSN is probably good, but your passport may not be. Frankly this is too complex for me and you REALLY need to consult an attorney to get this mess straightened out.

[cdad]

Did he hold you out to others as his own? If so then he is your parent by estopple. And that does give you rights even if there is no bioligy shared.

So all the documents etc were made in good faith. They should also still be good.

[danahoover]

So now I have a new question.
I have been paying my parents property taxes and bills for the past 5 years.
If I am not there child because my adoption was not legal.
And he has given his land to the care taker.
Can I take my dad to court for the money I have paid out.
And any legal fees that I will now have to clean this mess up.
I have to say I love my mom more than anything,
But I am very upset and feel used by the Man that I called my Dad all my life.

[cdad]

So now I have a new question.
I have been paying my parents property taxes and bills for the past 5 years.
If I am not there child because my adoption was not legal.
And he has given his land to the care taker.
Can I take my dad to court for the money I have paid out.
And any legal fees that I will now have to clean this mess up.
I have to say I love my mom more than anything,
But I am very upset and feel used by the Man that I called my Dad all my life.

There really is no new question at this time until its proven by a court that he is not your father. See my previous post for an explination. It appears that yes he hid the truth from you but at the same time he held you as his own. That is why Scott is suggesting going to court and getting it straightened out. And have him declared the legal father. And for that matter your mother also. So you can aid in making decisions etc as time passes.

[danahoover]

Thank you everyone
I know he is just acting like this because he is old.
The thought of him not wanting to be my father now are thoughts being planted by his young girlfriend.
I will get a lawyer and fight to take care of my parents who had always said I was the best thing to happen to them until now.
Thank you

[ScottGem]

Good luck and keep us posted.

[danahoover]

Hi I have a question
My mom is in a care home and I found out my adoption was not legal and my dad told the care home to keep her.
He does not want her home for he moved in the girlfriend already.
Should I tell my mom she is not going home or just avoid the question and try and keep her happy till she dies.
She is 84 and Dad is 96.

[Fr_Chuck]

Opinion, from a non legal opinion, just keep her happy, and ignore the question if you can. If first her health is bad enough where going home would not be a option anyway, why upset her.