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helpmehnow123 · Feb 2, 2011, 11:47 PM

Can I have sex with my girlfriend, we are 14 years old, but in love

united777300 · Feb 3, 2011, 12:12 AM

No! Love is not SEX! Remember love can ALWAYS wait to get, but LUST can not wait to receive. God's best for you is to abstain (or refrain from) sexual activity until you get married. Feelings change and feelings are not the test of truth. The truth is stated in the bible. Concentrate on your friendship together and abstain from all sexual activity. Do not awake love before you are married, you will ruin your friendship together and it may cause a lot of extra grief.

To avoid this kind of temptation stay out where other people can see you, stay out of the dark and out of the bedroom. I would avoid most touching of any parts of the body and avoid kissing on the lips. Even better avoid kissing. If you find that you don't have anything in common if you are touching and kissing each other it shows your friendship is just based on physical attraction or lust. Not good!

Alty · Feb 3, 2011, 12:30 AM

You're way too young to consider sex in your relationship. If you really love each other then wait until you're old enough for this. You're both underage according to the law, so keep that in mind.

To united777300, it's great that you have such strong beliefs in God, but please realize that not everyone has the faith you do, and preaching to people is not okay.

We have a religious forum where you're more then welcome to share your beliefs with others. But, on the regular forums, stick to the question and keep God out of it unless you're specifically asked.

Thanks.

J_9 · Feb 3, 2011, 12:31 AM

Originally Posted by helpmehnow123

can i have sex with my gf, we are 14 years old, but in love

Since you are not old enough to be able to afford a baby, sex is off limits.

JudyKayTee · Feb 3, 2011, 09:54 AM

Originally Posted by united777300

No! Love is not SEX! Remember love can ALWAYS wait to get, but LUST can not wait to receive. God's best for you is to abstain (or refrain from) sexual activity until you get married. Feelings change and feelings are not the test of truth. The truth is stated in the bible. Concentrate on your friendship together and abstain from all sexual activity. Do not awake love before you are married, you will ruin your friendship together and it may cause a lot of extra grief.

To avoid this kind of temptation stay out where other people can see you, stay out of the dark and out of the bedroom. I would avoid most touching of any parts of the body and avoid kissing on the lips. Even better avoid kissing. If you find that you don't have anything in common if you are touching and kissing each other it shows your friendship is just based on physical attraction or lust. Not good!

Please refrain from preaching on other than the religious boards. Your "truth" may not be my "truth" and not everyone who posts here is Christian - or believes in God.

Please don't tell me what God wants or expects.

ITstudent2006 · Feb 3, 2011, 10:01 AM

Originally Posted by united777300

stay out of the dark and out of the bedroom.

What do I do when the sun goes down? Where do I sleep at night, if not in my bedroom?

I fully understand what you're saying but lets think logically about this. The truth is not you, the truth is not the bible. The truth is relevant to the person asking the question, not to the person answering.

You cannot preach about God and it being the truth because it's not. In your eyes maybe, but not in mine. Am I saying you are wrong? No, then I would be a hipocrit of what I just wrote. You believe in one thing, I believe in another, the OP believes in what they believe in. You offer advice, opinions, suggestions do not preach you know the truth and say that's the way it's suppose to be.

InTooDeep619 · Feb 3, 2011, 06:39 PM

? This seems to be a religious debate... My advice is to thoroughly think about what you do before you do it. While I don't nesisarily condone such activities, I don't control you, so if you decide to go through with that, use protection and be sure you won't regret it later on.

Enigma1999 · Feb 3, 2011, 07:15 PM

Originally Posted by helpmehnow123

can i have sex with my gf, we are 14 years old, but in love

Helpme,

You two are way too young to be engaging in any sexual activities.

You may think you're "in love", but it's doubtful. I do believe that you may care for her, but not in love.

At this stage in your lives, you should be enjoying school, friends, family, after school activities, sports, music, art, going to the movies, going roller skating... so on and so forth.

The last thing you should be thinking about is sex.

Sex will happen... In time that is. When you are good and ready.

Take your time though. Mature more. Understand more. Grow more.

Just remember that losing your virginity should be something special. With that special person.

Not to mention if you were to get her pregnant.

Wait my friend... wait.

Fr_Chuck · Feb 3, 2011, 07:48 PM

First at 14, it is illegal anywhere that I am aware of.

Next at 14 there is no way one can be prepared for a baby.

Next sex does not equal love, love is caring for, listening to, and good communication

JudyKayTee · Feb 4, 2011, 09:25 AM

Originally Posted by InTooDeep619

? This seems to be a religious debate... My advice is to thoroughly think about what you do before you do it. While I don't nesisarily condone such activities, I don't control you, so if you decide to go through with that, use protection and be sure you won't regret it later on.

No, this isn't a religious debate. Those belong on the religion boards.

This is an attempt NOT to have a religious debate.