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koliomamata · Feb 3, 2011, 01:52 AM

Hi all. I'll try to keep it short :)
So there is a girl I know for a long time but we only say hi when we meet. Until 3 months ago. I accidentally said "hi" over skype and we started a chat... a long one and that continued day by day and we got to know each other. So some time passed and I asked her out, she accepted. We both had a good time. After that we kept meeting through an old friend of mine which happens to be some kind of her best friend. And I thought (and I still do) that I could have a chance with her. And just when all the positive thoughts were on my mind *KABOOM* she happens to have a boyfriend. That's "OUCH" but she keeps complaining about him and one night (3 AM) she wrote me something over skype like "You keep me there all night again :) At least we got what to talk about unlike some people (i guess pointing him)". And pretty much that is all. So what should I do. He doesn't even seem to be really in that relationship and pretty much everyone can see that. He makes her angry a lot of the time and stuff. But the question is what can I do about this? I have this strange feeling that things are going to be all right but it won't be easy at all.

Alty · Feb 3, 2011, 02:26 AM

Her boyfriend may be a jerk, he may not be into the relationship, they may fight a lot, but, they're still together. If she wanted to be with you, she'd stop being with him. That's the bottom line.

She's not married, she can end this relationship whenever she wants to, but she hasn't. What does that tell you?

It's not as hard as you seem to think. If she wanted to be with you she'd dump him.

pmjlghrs · Feb 3, 2011, 07:59 PM

I disagree with that first answer. I'm not saying you should try to make her dump her boyfriend, but there is the possibility that she just doesn't want to let go. Talk to her about if she's really happy with him. Put her first with it, and just see if you can help find the best answer for her.

xxAnGeLxx · Feb 8, 2011, 06:41 PM

There isn't really anything you can do. But be there for her as a friend. Soon she will see that you have true feelings for her.Maybe your the one who helps keep her head cleared. When a girl is going through rough times she always likes to have a guy friend there and he tells her things from a guys point of view where her girlfriends could only tell her things from their views.