[sammisingle]

My husband left me in dec he cheated on me and then moved out the next months he came back cause he said he missed me and are kids 3 days later he told me he didn't love me and is now moving and to be with the same girl again what do you do dose he really love me or not

[Homegirl 50]

He loves himself.
You don't play such mean games with a family you love.

[love_1235]

Well he feels comfortable with you,
He loves you but he is not in love with you,
Which is a difficult thing to go through if you are still in love with him.
Sounds like when he is down and out you are the person he will come back too,

[vanheart]

I would leave him in the dust & take the kids. He moved out.

Leave him with her, which sounds way more important to him now than you or your family.

Honestly, you don't need your kids to be around that influence.

If you want him to see the kids, let a lawyer decide if & when. Figure out alimony.

Like he said "didnt love me" Cheater. Screw that.

Let him deal w/those repercussions & you move on to something better.

No one wants or deserves that. Only one way out. Divorce him.

[SocialPsiTina]

It's so sad that you are going through this, especially with 3 children.

It would be difficult to say if he "really" loves you. Unfortunately, it may not matter. Because of his current mental and emotional state, he can't really love anybody. Right now, he can't be trusted. He probably feels a very deep emotional connection for you, but without a clear and consistent intention to be with you, you're only in for more pain if you keep hanging on to hope.

I hope that you get as much support as you can. This is a gut-wrenching experience, but if you can grieve the loss over time, and then get clear on what you'd really like to have in a relationship, then eventually you can go about the business of finally having it-- with someone stable and trustworthy.

[talaniman]

I doubt if he loves himself at this time, let alone capable of loving anyone, and the decision you really have to make is whether to let him leave, and comeback as he pleases.

I vote that when he leaves, don't let him back. This is for you, and your kids. Get some legal advice, at least have him live up to his lawful responsibilities.

So sorry you are going through this, but you will have to weather the storm, of hurt feelings and do what's best for you and your family.

[answerme_tender]

I agree with other post. He is in love with lust. He has put himself above all else. His selfishness will one day come back to him ten folds!!

He has devastated you and your childrent through his acts. It is time to stop wondering if he will come or if he will ever get that slap upside the head to come to realize that he lost his family and want you back.

Its time to contact attorney first find out what steps you need to take to protect yourself and your children. Knowledge of what you can and cannot do will can only help your situation! Just because he is in Lust doesn't mean he won't cause anymore hurt by trying to pull crap on you about child support or material items!

I would also get some counseling, you need a place that you can go and talk freely about what is going on. If unable to afford, check around for counselors that do a scale rating. Check with your church some offer classes now for individuals going through seperation/divorce. Also don't forget to change the locks in the house, so he can't get back in at anytime he wants too!!

Keep us posted, I wish you the very best!!

[SocialPsiTina]

Yes, I agree with answerme_tender. If you can get counselling and/or support for people going through this, that would be the very best thing for you and your children.

[pixiemoore]

If you hate his ex try reading I HATE HIS EX by Alex Cooper. I had loads of problems with my fiance's ex and I have now resolved them thanks to the advice in this book! You can get it on Amazon! Definitely worth a read! :)