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redhed35 · Jan 30, 2011, 11:16 AM

Time for you to take a breath.

I do understand your concerns but if your health is suffering because of this, perhaps the mother of the bride could be more help in putting the show together?

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tickle · Jan 30, 2011, 11:32 AM

Kal, you may find it easier for you and all members to use the reply feature instead of the comments feature.
Sorry to hear you are not in the best of health throughout this ordeal. You just can't let these people get the upper hand over all of this. They are not the end all and be all anyway.

Tick

kalimae4 · Jan 30, 2011, 03:32 PM

I'm not 100% sure, but I don't think the "mother-in-law" will be a lot of help. I'm very sure she will go along with the daughters wishes. She has offered to help with the RD, maybe I should ask to use her kitchen as she lives in the same city as the country club! LOL Hmmmm, now there's a thought! I wouldn't feel comfortable with that BUT.. . :) <evil grin>

The whole point is this girl is just being totally ridiculous! There is no need for this insanity! Yes, that's easy for me to say. My son won't put his foot down because he's just trying to "keep her happy". He told me his back was as much against the wall as mine is. That was all I needed to hear to know his position. Poor fellow. :(

We are going to do the best we can with what we have to work with and the first person I hear make a negative remark about this dinner is probably going to get the worst tongue lashing of their life, if not worse! She is a spoiled rotten brat!

tickle · Jan 30, 2011, 03:44 PM

Quite honestly, kal, how much time did you have to figure all of this out. Weeks, days. I know you would like our back up, but you know. We have our limits on this whole thread. It is going back and forth and back and forth.

So... my dear... what is the ultimate outcome. Just get the dinner a done deal and get over with it.

Yes, she is probably spolled, and is under presuure, as all new brides are. You have to give her that; there is two sides to every situation.

Tick

redhed35 · Jan 30, 2011, 03:46 PM

Kalimae, as I have said earlier I understand your frustration, but I would ask you to consider the future relationship with your soon to be daughter in law... there will most likely be grandchildren in years to come, if your on bad terms with her now and things don't improve, it will just get worse.

Time and time again women post saying they can't see their grandchildren due to relationship problems with their DIL, don't let that be you.

Do what you can for the dinner and smile, don't give her any ammuniation against you.

You don't have to live with her, but your son does, and I'm sure he loves you both very much.

You said yourself you going to do it for him, do it for yourself as well, rise above the insults.

tickle · Jan 30, 2011, 03:46 PM

I think it is time to close thread thead. Nothing more to come of it.

Tick

kalimae4 · Jan 30, 2011, 08:55 PM

Now future DIL is refusing to go to rehearsal dinner if we put it on. She wants my son to put it on. I asked him if we were invited to the RD and wedding. He said he didn't know. What the heck? This girl has lost her mind!