[BAMitsKathryn]

This is long.. sorry XD

There's a guy that I met through the internet about 2 months ago. At first, we talked 24/7. We would text non-stop all day long, then for about a week, we'd talk on the phone at night for a few hours. We went on around 7 dates; two of which were at each other's houses watching movies and cuddling on the couch. We haven't kissed yet, but I was pretty positive that he liked me at least a little. As time went on, our texting/talking slowed (which I expected. That happens to everyone at some point. You can't go non-stop texting all day, every day.). The last time we went out together, we went to a karaoke thing with a few of my other friends. After that, we've barely talked at all :(
I don't know whether its because I did something wrong, or what. Almost a week went by that he didn't text me; he finally texted me and told me "sorry for lack of communication. Work and school makes my life pretty hectic, not including all the family stuff going on with me right now." And I completely understand. I'm busy with work and school too; it can get hard at times. We texted the rest of the night, and he seemed interested in the conversation, and enthusiastic to talk to me (no one or two word texts like most people do when they don't feel like talking. He's never done that). NOW, over a week has passed with no contact, yet again. It makes me sad because I was really starting to like the guy.. and this whole "not talking" thing is making me second-guess if he was ever really interested at all.

FYI: When we first started texting, it wasn't just him texting me, or vise-versa. Some days I would start the "texting conversation," and other days he would. It was a healthy balance I guess you could say. Towards the end, after the Karaoke night, I felt I was the only one starting the conversations and keeping them going. I'm not the kind of girl to chase a guy, and I'm not the clingy girl who tries to make them stay. I stopped texting him because my thinking was: if he wanted to talk to me, he would make it happen and text me. Aaaaaand, it would at least give me some reassurance that he actually wanted to talk and was thinking about me.

So now, it's been 10 days of no contact and I'm wondering if I should just suck it up and text him, or just kind of give it up on whatever "could have been" because it's apparently not happening. If that's the case, then so be it; whatever happens, happens. I'd just like someone else's opinion on the matter.
Just no mean/sarcastic comments please XD

[joypulv]

It shouldn't be a relationship killer to ask after 2 months, even though it hasn't really gotten off the ground yet. 'Is this just not working out for you; I miss you but can move on if need be.' He may need to know that he won't have to deal with any recriminations. But he may have been letting his studies suffer (I wonder how he managed to do work and school and all that texting!) and now is dealing with bad grades, loss of job, angry parents, who knows. I'd wait a wee bit longer.

[angelicaflorine]

Personally, I would come right out with it. "I haven't heard from you and wanted to know what's going on." Although, joypulv's reaction is a lot nicer. Lol. You have to be a straight shooter sometimes when it comes to dating. If he doesn't answer or does the two-worded thing, then I would cut my losses. I've been in this situation before and I've always said that if I don't hear from them in seven days, then I'm moving on. It may seem cruel, but I have to protect my interest (me).

[redhed35]

How long does it take to send a text? 20 seconds? Less.

No one is so busy that they can't send a 20 second text over a ten day period to say, 'sorry I'm so busy right now but I'm thinking about you, and will make a date in the week'...

He not interested, or has lost interest.

In my time being single no matter how busy or messed up a guy is, if he is interested he will make time or at the very least keep in contact.

Move on.

[talaniman]

Well you went along with the program before, why not again? Personally I think you should have been straight up before about how you felt, after the long period of no contact whatsoever. He probably thinks you are okay with it.

What throws me off though is all that texting and talking, and no agreement to cover that long period of not contacting each other even through a quick text? Makes me wonder is all.

Shoot him a text, and see what's up, but now that you know how he can disappear, don't put a lot of eggs in his basket, I mean even with a busy life, who doesn't have time for a text? You can do that on the toilet at work, if he wanted to, but maybe he is wondering the same about you too, so cover the bases, but leave plenty of wiggle room for yourself.

That what dating is about, finding out about another person, and sometimes its great, sometimes it ain't. So don't get too locked in while you are learning.

Talaniman Rule- Give yourself 6 months of dating and getting to know someone, before you decide together to be DATING EXCLUSIVELY, and having fun getting to know each other.