[shared123]

Is it okay when your man talks about you to his baby mother in a bad way and also when I say its cool with me because your daughter is involved but when you look at the phone records he is texting her nonsense... I don't know what to do I have been going through this for about five years,every time she calls its always drama between me and him!!

[Fr_Chuck]

Of course you have no business looking at his texts, but no he should not be telling anything bad about you to others, if he has issues with you, that is between him and you, not others outside.

Also he should not be having contact with his ex ( babies momma) unless it is about the kids and his visits for kids.

[DoulaLC]

Going on for five years and it's not sorted out? No doubt it has been discussed... were expectations talked about and agreed upon or has it mostly been arguing about it?

Maybe it's time to sit down calmly and decide what can be done so that both of you are comfortable with the situation and how much involvement he should have with her.

If you can't come to an agreement that you both can live with, then you may have to cut your losses and move on or learn to put up with continued drama.

[sHAKEs]

Here first of all you have to sort out the cause of your back biting. If the reason is valid you can change if wanted to. If not gently ask him why he's doing this to you. May be he has something to say. Discuss this before going to sleep. If there's no result of discussion keep silence and get depart for few days. This will bring you closer when you meet again. I'm sure it will work for you. Good Luck.

[liongal]

Agree with the above.

No it's not OK and he know's this too. He's also indicating to her that there are flaws in your relationship which she can easily break up if she wanted to IMO.

By all means talk to him but 5 years... Girl, you have to be real with yourself on this one, as it's not healthy nor is it strengthening your union!