[BlueEye]

Help me my best friend and I were just playing around one night,and we had a few drinks.And one thing led to another,and now I'am three weeks pregnant!! I have know idea what to do he has a girlfriend and they are much in LOVE.Now how in the world do I tell him I am with his child.Or should I keep this to myslef,and do something I thought I would never have to do and kill.MY BABY (I know if he knew he would want me to keep the baby,but I am also friends with her,and I know she would never forgive me.
She also can never have kids herslef,because of a problem she has in her body.So please help me,and give me ideas of what I should do.

[Wondergirl]

Doesn't he have the right to know you're pregnant? After all, it's half his.

Doesn't his girlfriend have the right to know he's a cheater?

[AbuBakr_Fin]

I`m a muslim, and that`s very sad for me, and I believe if you were a muslim, you would be safe from that kind of evil from happening, as our Prophet -peace be upon him- has warned about a man and a woman being alone with another that the devil is the third among them, and that alcohol is the mother of all sins.
Anyway I still believe the answer is in Islam, and hope you become muslim. But whether you do or not, it is wrong to kill your child, because the unborn is innocent of the sins of the parents.

We believe that when a person purifies oneself and accepts to surrender to God in obedience and worship to Him Alone, being sincere, and follows the guidance, will have forgiveness and relief.

And I agree 90% with wondergirl that she has the right to know what an ******* she`s dealing with. But what can you do? Sometimes it`s better to be silent of the truth, and in this case you would be punishing her for something that you should be punished for, so keep it to yourself and live with it. Whether you tell your `best friend` (and I hope you find better) or not, I can`t say, but what I always do, when I don`t know which way to go, is ask my Creator:

http://www.al-baz.com/shaikhabdalqad...istikhara.html

I hope I could be of any consolation. Please take better care of yourself, and start thinking about the purpose of your life. Is it just to eat, sleep, have sex, drink, socialize, worry about this and that until you die and everyone forgets you soon? You were not created for any foolish reason. You are more precious than that.

The link is to a page where a prayer taught by Prophet MuHammad -may Allaah elevate his mentioning, and send him Peace- is explained. If you read it from your heart, you will come to discover the right decision. Life goes on still. Don`t worry much.

And one more thing:
You are in crisis, so it`s important that you speak to someone about these things - like it`s very good you wrote here. Don`t involve people, who have any relation to the persons it may influence right now, because there`s no need to add to the chaos, but still have a social network of support. Just do it for your own mental stability. Be patient, and try to learn from this experience, and this is a new phase in life. Take it as a strength, even it`s hard. Believe me, I`m a student nurse. You need to process this, and what it means to you, and learn to accept it in your life.
Listen to this, when you feel restless, it will calm you down:
www.all-quran.com

[BlueEye]

(To help me out you should read my last post)It has been a few months now,and I found out that the test I took. To find out if I was pergo was wrong!! (I went to the doc.) Now I'am wondering should I tell my best friend (u know the one boyfriend that I had sex with) That we slept together or should I just leave it alone,because now she is expecting to have a child by him herslef(we all found out lastnight)
He says he is really sorry that he hurt me,and we should forget what happened.I know I should just let this go,but I can't seem to get that night out of my head.After I found out I wasn't pregnant ,I told him .That's also when I told him about the way I felt,I've been through a lot these past few months so I just cried in his arms like a baby.
That's when he told me that,that night he feel in love with me,but he couldn't leave her because she is haven his kid.(I understand he is trying to do the right thing but.. ) I am in love with him,I know its wrong to feel this way,but I do, its just the way he looks at me just makes me want to melt.And now I'am helping her pick out colors for her babyroom.The other day when I was helping her pick out her babybed I broke down and started cring she asked what's wrong,I told her I was just so happy about her(but the truth is I'am so hurt)
Should I just put my feelings aside,and forget about that night,or should I just tell her the truth.She always tells me,that I'am a model,and I could have anyman I want,not some soon to be stay at home mom like her.(He works has a profootball trainer,it's his first year)I wonder how she would feel,if she knew the only man I wanted was hers...

[adviceishere]

I read all of your questions dating back to July! You don't seem to have listened to anyone's advice on this since you first started asking questions, your going through men left, right and centre, start learning to respect yourself, and stop focusing so much on boys, respect your friends or you will be left a sad and lonely girl. Your looks don't last forever dear...