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silkykathy · Jan 16, 2011, 08:24 PM

I am still in love with my ex and for a long time to cover my hurt I got into a rebound relationship for which I was in denial and now I want to get out and solve stuff with my ex. Is this the right thing to do?

talaniman · Jan 16, 2011, 10:12 PM

Solving things with the ex, I don't know enough about that, but getting out of the rebound sounds like a good idea until you figure out what you want to do.

How old are you and the ex?

silkykathy · Jan 17, 2011, 07:19 PM

I am 25 and my ex is 34. We dated for 4yrs. The rebound has been for the last year. I don't know how to end it. It's overwhelming yet I know deep down my feelings for my ex are still strong

talaniman · Jan 17, 2011, 10:28 PM

How can you lie and be deceitful to th guy you are with? Have you even had any contact with your ex? Why are you even in a relationship at all? Why not be single and have your own life for a while?

silkykathy · Jan 18, 2011, 07:00 PM

Honestly when I got with the guy initially it was honest & I was exited about it. I did warn him that I had just got out of a rlship but he said he was OK. After almost 5-6 months the feelings 4 my ex started to hit. Now I feel I was wrong & want him

Homegirl 50 · Jan 18, 2011, 07:34 PM

You need to leave the current boyfriend alone and get your head together.
Why is the ex and ex. Did he leave you or you him?

talaniman · Jan 18, 2011, 07:42 PM

The last thing any one should do is get into a new relationship, before they have gotten over the old one.

Homegirl 50 · Jan 18, 2011, 07:51 PM

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to talaniman again.

silkykathy · Jan 18, 2011, 08:44 PM

Not sure I understand your comment

Like I said I was in denial and angry. Now I know better but in the process of it now I got to learn how to deal with what I put myself into and what I caused another guy despite him saying he'd be OK with it

I know I messed up but the guy now knows I had feelings for the ex and he is saying he still loves me. I don't know the best way to deal with it but I guess I am just afraid of hurting him because he is a great guy & I don't know the best way out

Homegirl 50 · Jan 19, 2011, 08:19 AM

You are obviously bothered by this. You need to leave the current guy alone.
You are unhappy, you don't stay with someone just because he is a great guy. If you are not really into this relationship, get out of it.
A guy who is willing to have you knowing you have feeling for someone else has a problem of his own. He is using you too.
You both need to be away from each other.