[ive12]

Im 18 year old and I had sex for the frist time 2 days ago how do I tell my mother who told me to wait because he is my uncles friend

[Curlyben]

WHY do you feel the need to tell your parents ?

Don't forget parents know EVERYTHING anyway ;)

[CravenMorhead]

"Mom, I just wanted to let you know that bang your brother's friend. Could you pass the gravy please?"

I don't see the need to tell her, or could it be because you banged a contemporary of your mother. Ie, someone your mother's age. Now that you're 18, I don't see why it is any of your mother's business any more.

If you need to tell her, then tell her like the mature adult that you are. If you think she is going to react harshly, then don't tell her.

[redhed35]

You know I think it's a good thing if you want to tell her,if you have the kind of relationship that you can talk freely about sex.

From your post I assume that she has spoken to you about sex,again I think that's positive and good parenting.

Your first time is a big deal and having someone like your mother to talk to I think its really great.

She has raised you and spoken to you about sex,that said, she has to understand you're an adult and made that decision on your own... thats what adults do.

If you don't feel comfortable telling her who it was,I don't think you need to.

As a parent of daughters I can honestly say I was a little taken aback when they told me they were having sex,but later on I felt quite delighted with myself that they felt they COULD tell me.

[QLP]

My daughter told me by asking me to go along with her for contraception advice. Yes she had enough sense to use contraception anyway but she wanted to explore the different options more fully. The clinic we visited were very glad I accompanied her since family health history meant there were some options that were not good for her and I was able to give them detailed information on this.

It depends on your relationship with your mum. My kids have always known they can come and ask me anything. That doesn't mean they always do though. My son has approached me for advice for his girlfriends since they didn't feel able to ask their own mums.

If you don't have any specific need to tell her and you feel it would be a major problem then there is no reason why you have to.

[Cat1864]

I've, in August you were 17, so I will guess that you are barely 18 now. If you are old enough to have sex, you are old enough to make your own decisions about what to do and to live the consequences.

If you still live in her house and she is responsible for your medical care, you might think about being honest with her especially if her telling you to wait included any rules about being sexually active while living under her roof. Plus, I don't think you want her to learn the truth if you have to tell her you think you are pregnant or have a sexually transmitted disease.

It probably be better coming from you than it would be your Uncle sharing what his 'friend' told him. Things like this tend to slip out even if both parties don't want them to. On a side note, where do you expect this relationship to go?