[Marivig]

I am 56 years old, My son is 23, I divorced my husband after 20 years of sexual and physical abuse, I have also a daughter who is 30,who I brought a house with when I finally got the courage to leave. My son is a very big strong man, he has a Alaskan Malamute which he is abusive to and every time I try and stop him, he turns on me, tells me to mind my own business and get out of his life, He lives in the house my daughter and I are buying together, he has no respect for our house or anything in it. I have sacrificed my own life to try and make his life easy for him, I have always been there for him and helped in every way I can. This is so hard to explain? he gets very violent towards me and my daughter, he grabs me by the throat and threatens to kill me if I do anything. We have always been a very animal loving family and I cannot understand why he does it. I have no family here, we live in Western Australia, so I have no one to turn to,I feel very isolated and alone, I have tried reasoning with him and have said he should try counselling, I have also tried to get him to leave, but it just provokes another violent outburst, what do I do?? I need help PLEASE

[Fr_Chuck]

He leaved to abuse by watching his father, ( since you said he was abusive) and he learned you do nothing about it, so he has no fear of you.

So when he touches you, call the police and have him arrested. Start eviction to throw him out of the house.

[lvgmng]

I'm sure the animal authorities in your area would like to know about the abuse to the malamute. Animal abuse can and does result in jail time. Also check your local blue pages for abuse help. Do you have a lease with your son? If not I believe you should be able to evict without a reason.

As for the eviction of your son this site may be helpful http://www.federalrealestate.net/laws/ak.html

This website may be helpful for the abuse you are dealing with it is a site for adult protective services in your state http://www.hss.state.ak.us/dsds/aps.htm

For the animal abuse here is some helpful information... I did find out it is a felony in your state to abuse an animal. This website was helpful with how to report it and what you can do to help http://www.pet-abuse.com/pages/animal_cruelty/reporting_abuse.php

I hope this helps you. No one should have to endure any kind of abuse for any length of time.

[jenniepepsi]

Kick his *** out. And if he touches you or your daughter, call the cops. Its sad, but he needs to learn the HARSH hard lessons his father never learned (and passed on to his son)
I almost never say this to a parent about her chidlren, even for adults, but in these kinds of cases, if you are HARD enough on him, with HARD learned lessons, and NO exceptions, he will either figure it out, or he will destroy his life and probably end up in jail/prison.

So bite that bullet darling, and tell him WHAT, WHEN, WHY, and HOW.