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    Jan 7, 2011, 02:41 AM
    She says she loves me but needs space?
    I split up with my partner of 7 years, She's 23, I'm 30, She said she felt trapped and wanted to find herself, She says she loves me and hopes we can have a future together yet I'm trying to give her space and she contacts me. We've met several times now and had intimate moments but I'm left waiting to see if she wants me. I love her with all my heart and just want to know one way or another, She says it may take days, weeks or months to realise what we had was right or we may never reconcile the relationship, Help, I'm so confused??
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    Jan 7, 2011, 02:48 AM

    I hate to say this bud, but I say move on. Relationship is done. Give her her space. Don't contact her, all it will do is push her away if you do. Give her the gift of missing you. Just focus on yourself, stay busy to keep your mind off her.
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    Jan 7, 2011, 03:39 AM
    Uhm is there any reason she suddenly said that she needs space?Did u guys fight before this?Or she just said it suddenly out of the blue?Cus I really can't give advices provided with little informations
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    Jan 7, 2011, 05:22 AM
    She's been with you since she was 16? That's unusual for any teen to last in a relationship for the next 7 years. She's changing, as we all do from 16 to 23, so tenderly let her go. She may come back, she may not, and it's going to hurt, but try to remember being 16 through 23. Tell her you are trying to remember, trying to understand.
    (PS: she sounds wise and very likable for her honesty.)
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    Jan 7, 2011, 10:08 AM

    Sorry guy, but when you have been all she has known from her CHILDHOOD just about, she wants to explore her world, and see what else is out there as she keeps you close enough to be an option, and her safety net, from rejection, boredom, and failure.

    Don't be that because she is already weaning herself off you, and when she finds a better option, you are toast any way. Go find your thing to do without her, or suffer the consequences of being left behind without a proper healing. She is exploring, you need to let go, and not be so available to her, so do your own exploring.

    Why give her cake, and allow her to eat yours? Stop hoping, and start doing for yourself, as healing will take you both a long time, and she has started hers already.
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