[inshah]

Hello... I know this guy since two years. He was my senior in college but we never actually spoke to each other. He finished his graduation and left the college and then one day he sent me message giving his cell number (We have only met twice after he passed out form college and that too in presence of common friends). It is during these times that we came to know each other well. He now treats me as one of his best friends. In the past he would sometimes talk to me like I was his girlfriend(he used to message me about going on a date,tell me that he wants to kiss me etc) I also like him, but I never encouraged such talks nor did I tell him to stop it. Now a days he is quite busy and he doesn't call me that often nor does he send me these messages. I know he likes me but now days I feel he has changed and this makes me feel he was just flirting with me. I once confronted him and told him that it makes me feel very bad that I allowed him to flirt with me .He got very emotional and said that he never treated me as an time pass or a joke and he considers me as one of his best friends.Now I don't understand him... I really want to now what he feels for me. But I don't know how to go about it... So pleases help

[joypulv]

From a few words you say here, I get the impression that you are putting the entire burden on him. He had expressed feelings about dating and kissing and you gave him no clues, no response, no encouragement at all. He may have given up! Then you told him you regretted that you let him flirt. This is not fair to him at all.

There's nothing wrong with a woman letting a man know that she likes his attentions. TELL him that you have always liked him, are sorry about regretting the remark, and were just cautious back then and now too, because he's so busy. Yes, it's possible that he has moved on, but that could be because he gave up, so do you really want to never find out? The worst that could happen is that he says he has changed, but that shouldn't mean your present relationship has to stop.

[Devorameira]

He may have gotten the impression that you weren't interested in a dating relationship with him and moved on.

Still sounds like he cares for you, but you'll never know if he cares for you as a friend or as a potential girlfriend unless you make the move. Why not ask him out if you're interested?

[I wish]

Seems pretty clear. He sees you as one of his best friends. Which means that you're in the friends zone.

If you have feelings for him, then let him know, but it sounds more like he treats you as a friend only.

When we have feelings for someone, we may twist their actions and words into thinking that they may have feelings for us too.