[TiredPrincess]

My boyfriend of two months has put me through hell. All I ever asked for was to have time with him, not even a whole day. All he ever wants to do is hang out with his friends and get drunk. When ever I ask why he doesn't take me along he says it's because he knows I won't have fun. Which is true I don't drink, though that isn't the reason. The three times I did go with him, one of those times I was actually invited to go by him. All he did was drink and drink, he just ignored me the entire time, oh and once he left me there for three hours! Every time he gets drunk, he ends up turning into the biggest jerk I have ever dated. One time he made me so mad, and would take me home, so I walk several miles back to my house.

Having threatened to break up with him if he doesn't shape up, things have gotten well not soooo much, but better. We spend more time together, and he isn't always trying to get ride of me... right away. What he does now is he makes plans with me. So when the time he told me comes around I text him, several times, then eventually call him. This takes about three hours if I am lucky. He gives me some bull crap about his friend or family needing him, or my favorite "I had stuff to do". Of course by the time he finally tells me all that it's to late, and I won't show up past 9pm.

Today he made plans with me, and yet again he bailed, did not text till 11pm. I finally got all the information out of him. He said he loves me, sooo I told him I did too, but he should show it. After some time I ask him what he is doing, he responds with "listening to music and being sad". I did not get his reason for being sad instead I got a reason for why he acts the way he does. He told me he is scared, this is the happiest he has ever been. This feeling is not mutual anymore.

My question is if he was really scared would he really treat me as bad as he does? If he wanted to keep me, wouldn't he try a bit harder, and try to show that he wants me around?

[redhed35]

Your opening line of your post says it all.

Your boyfriend of 2 MONTHS has put you through hell! Why stick around to be treated like crap,surely there are better guys out there who would love to treat you better.

What are his actions telling you?

For me, id walk away,too much hassel and grief after a short period,it should be fun at this stage,getting to know each other,dating and laughing,not tormented.

Do yourself and favour and dump his a$$,set a higher standard because frankly this guy is not ready for any type of relationship.

[talaniman]

His words and actions don't match, do they. That's why you dump him and end this farce and leave him to his drinking. My dear, if this is the honeymoon phase then you are in deep doodoo, when its over.

[answerme_tender]

Come on lets get real here, if you accept his crumbs of attention, not even affection, but mere crumbs of attention, why would you think he is going to change for a woman that he has only been going out with for 2 months, but really hasn't even paid enough attention to her to equal a full 2months!! You have allowed this man to treat you with NO RESPECT!!

Its time to step up and prove to this guy that you DESERVE a lot better then HIM and your moving on to make sure you find that special guy. Once we give up control of how we expect someone to treat us, we have given them more then they deserve period. Even the person we love should never have CONTROL over how we should be treated, that is an ours alone to be in control of!!

YOu need to erase his number from your phone, or any other contact, block him from getting ahold of you. A person who obviously doesn't respect you, doesn't deserve a goodbye!! Good luck