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rainbowfrown · Jan 4, 2011, 06:27 AM

my boyfriend of 1 year hacked into all my e-mails account.he hired sm1 2 do it for him.he even gt access to my Facebook chat history.he couldn't find anything suspicious as such. But when he told me about it. He gt upset that I didn't tell him certain things.we had a massive fight.I was not ready for apology. N I don't thk I should. He got particularly pissed because I had a conversation with my girlfriend. We had a random chat.I don't get it.she is my friend.I didn't share anythg which he didn't know. He blamed me for everything.now he is apologising.I am yet 2 forgive him... should I leave him because I feel my trust has been totally broken...

NeedKarma · Jan 4, 2011, 06:29 AM

Please don't use chat speak - it's against the rules here.

To offer my opinion I would say that what he did is indeed a breach of trust. The fact that he hired someone else to do it is a scary thought as to what else he would do in the future to get what he wants.

Jake2008 · Jan 4, 2011, 06:54 AM

I agree. Someone that would go to that extent to hack into your personal history, is capable of much more than showing insecurity and jealousy.

That you are upset with this breech of trust is totally justified. I would never forgive anybody who did that to me.

This is more to do with his character in my opinion. What kind of person does that to another person.

What's next- a gps hidden in your car? Hiring a private detective to see what you're up to?

That he didn't find anything doesn't mean anything. What would have happened if he had read something that seemed 'suspicious' to him.

It isn't a lack of trust or faith you are dealing with here. It is an insecure man with poor character, who has provided a big red flag to you.

I'd take that as a very good reason to end the relationship.

talaniman · Jan 4, 2011, 09:38 AM

No way would I tolerate such an assault on my privacy when he could have come to you. Its him that couldn't have faith and trust in YOU, for whatever reason. Take your time to think long and hard about someone with issues that make him behave this way, because he will not be cured with another chance.

Especially if he is not actively working on his problem on his own. Until he does, his apology is nothing to you. Just more BS to get you back.

Charliesqirl · Jan 4, 2011, 11:39 PM

He will keep doinq it until he finds somethinq ( not that you have nethinq )
But its like the only time a person believes another person is cheatinq is if he or she tells them . ' I cheated '
B.c that is obviouslyy the truth why would you lie about cheatinq if your not ?

I hope you get what I mean