[Jessicacn]

My new guy and I spent new year eve and first day of 2011 together, I am appreciated for his company.. If he wants, he can have many options to spend his last night of the year( he is quite successful and the kind girls like). So, I was quite delighted about he spent holiday with me... But he got so upset about me because I messed up our schedule by my bad memory( too busy at work)... and during the dinner, he was upset again because I set the table wrong. Later, I tried to have sex, but he seemed too tired and not so interested in. The next day, we went out together, and had a lunch together.He seemed forgiving me but I could feel his attitude was a little bit strange-- he did not touch my hand, did not kiss me. We totally just like friends... But,during the lunch, he still planned to meet up next Sat...
What does he want? What should I do. I want to be in love. But so afraid of being hurt... I had such bad experience before.So. I am always here to listen the advises from stranger who can tell me the truth they think... Thanks

[Devorameira]

What he wants is to control you. Don't allow him to do that to you.

Why in the world would you even consider putting up with a "new guy" treating you like that. You deserve someone that treats you with dignity and respect and he's never going to do that.

Don't go out with him again. Move on and find someone that deserves you, as he doesn't!

[Jessicacn]

Thanks Devormeira... But It is me did something wrong and I messed up our schedule... and I do not want to change boyfriend frequently... I know nobody is perfect. But I am not so sure he is the one... I also saw he tried to make the night perfect.

[simplechivalry]

I kind of have to agree with devor. I understand planning and evening for someone and wanting it to go perfectly. But the fact you were busy with work kind of changes things. It wasn't as if you were at home all day being lazy or had any lack of interest. Also the setting up the table improperly is a huge red flag. I don't know of many guys who would turn down sex from a girlfriend unless there was a reason. It may be something as simple as him just wanting some space or a way for him to get to you. I wouldn't break it off at this point, but because he is someone new within your life be very cautious. If this has happened to you in the past you maye come to find yourself reliving another bad relationship. The only reason I would say end it now is to avoid a situation like that. Your best bet is to sit down and talk to him about it.