[missbarbie]

My new man and I were invited family b.b.q, niece didn't know my new man there, so she didn't dress up or play games with me or him. Next b.b.q few weeks later she turned up dressed up ready play games, flicking hair in front of him, speaking very loud seek my man attention.. my man notice as well, ego step in and he couldn't stop staring at her while I was sitting next to him.. should I weed out pair of them, seem like they both enjoyed playing games.. my ex man now is 45, niece 20.. also niece played same game when I was dating 9 years ago, she was 12 and throwing her self at him.. help she untrustworthy, should I weed her out? Didn't think family members would enjoy hurting another member of family.. appreciate advice thanks

[Fr_Chuck]

Why do you still invite her ? And have you spoke to your boyfriend ?

[Jake2008]

Your problem isn't with her.

If you have a boyfriend who falls for any woman who flaunts herself to get his attention, then you have a problem with your boyfriend.

While you may be able to avoid her by not going to family gatherings, there are plenty of women just like her that you cannot avoid. Such as co-workers, strangers in bars, company Christmas parties, etc.

You either trust him or you don't. Perhaps your niece IS a good test for him. If he falls for her, you have lost nothing.

[talaniman]

Just to clarify, being friendly, and engaging at a family get togethers' is a long way from falling for someone. And even if he gave her attention while you were right there, that's still not falling for someone.

Seems to me you would have given him a heads up about her, and laid out your expectations beforehand, and I'm not seeing a 12 year old turning heads, and making a grown man "fall" for her.

Help me understand this "fall" for her thing.