[Jiser]

Are you serious? I am telling this for your own good.

Get over yourself. Get over her! Stop worrying about what she's doing and go no contact for your own sake. You sound a bit obsessive for someone who's not even interested in you.

Your putting her ahead of yourself. Get on with your own life.

[joypulv]

I agree! She did you a favor - finally.
Some women crave that kind of possessiveness, thinking it is a sign of intense love, and put up with the abuse just to get it. Most will lose the charm of it quickly enough, but 5 years? She needs it, wants it. Find a woman who doesn't need it, or you as a shoulder to lean on. She's out there.

Find your friends. Gather them around and tell them this, and they will help you through the worst part until the pain is gone.

[gara]

Leave her , she is not thinking about you , she is not the one for you , you was just shoulder to cry on for her , stop thinking about her and move on and find another person who is clean and have no history or past with ex, and stop worrying because I guess she don't know how you are right now.

[talaniman]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...st-511642.html

Your other posts on this subject have been merged, and soon so will this one. But you will get the same responses as you have already gotten, but at least now we began to see your attachment in this sad saga of your friend, who has dragged you into her own drama, of which you need to get out of.

To bad you don't have the courage to tell her to leave you alone, (though she has told you that), and drown in her own sh1t! That's the only way she will awaken to her own circumstances, and make changes. Until then, she will never leave.

So you have to leave her alone, because you are finding out how powerless you are to do anything but pray for her. So now rebuild your own life without her, and make your own world happy and stop worrying about hers. Look at how you have allowed yourself to suffer, and let it go. If its been 4 months, go for 5!!

Its not easy, but very necessary!

[amir_28]

She is in a relationship with her boyfriend for 5 years now, but it was not easy for her. Went through many break ups but patched back with him, got emotionally hurt, he slapped her once, cried a lot and her boyfriend is possessive too. For a year, she had feelings for me and liked me. She shared all her problems with me. She knew I really cared and was affectionate toward her and we had many things in common. She felt happy and comfortable talking to me. She told me she has feelings for me but was confused. Suddenly, she doesn't want to talk to me because her boyfriend didn't like it. She thinks she can't move on if she breaks up with him. I know I was a rebound. It has been 5 months we last talked and she still has problems with her boyfriend. but will she realize how much I cared?

[amicon]

Sometimes we care for people who are stuck in situations which they are unable to get out of.

Her relationship is her problem and she must sort it out in her own good time.

You should leave this be and get on with your life as hoping against hope that one day she will be ready for a relationship with you would hold you back from getting on with your own life.

[amir_28]

She's in a relationship with a guy for 4 years plus. She went through a lot of emotional hurt with him. He is emotionally abusive, controlling and possessive too. She broke up but then went back to him many times thinking that he might change. A guy used to like her and she too liked and had feelings for him for a year. She felt happy and laughed around while talking to him and that guy did sweet things just to make her happy. In her heart, she knew he was really sweet and was caring, but she threw him away from her life because she still had hopes that she can change her boyfriend. She's still in the same cycle with her boyfriend and has conflicts. She lost the friendship of that guy who loved her. It has been several months she last talked to him. Someday, will she realize about her lost?

[redhed35]

One can never say what the future holds, however, why wait for someone who does not want you now?

She wants him, not you.

While your waiting on a future maybe, your present is passing you by, along with other romantic chances.

Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith and move forwards with your own life and leave the past behind.

Assume she is not coming back to you, and get cracking with your own life.

[amicon]

Don't put your life on hold for someone who is caught up in her own drama.

Go live your own life and find someone who cares for you.

[sharper11]

Maybe one day she will recognize her loss, but that is her fault. No one should WAIT to see if feelings change.

It is unfortunate that she is blinded by love, but do not wait, move on and be happy. Do not hold a place in your heart for someone who is not holding a place for you.

[talaniman]

Boy do you need a life. You have run this same post for the last 5 months!!