[adtirey]

My daughter is six weeks old. Her father and I recently broke up and he wants unsupervised visitations and to take her to different places to meet family we've never met before. I'm uncomfortable with this because he only sees her when he comes to visit, which is maybe 2 days at a time, maybe three times a month. He's not seen her since we broke up a few days ago. I've never met these people and am not comfortable with his ability to take care of her. He finds the laziest way to do everything. If he's laying down, he'll find a way to feed her and burp her while remaining lying down. And in general, he doesn't seem very educated in newborn care, though he insists he is. With me and my mom being the only consistent caretakers and sources of comfort for her, I'm terrified to let her go with him. While, in his words, he's "her daddy" she only sees him maybe 6 or 8 days out of the month, and always with me there, and I don't think she's old enough to be taken away from her safety zone.

General information: he did sign the paternity affidavit. We live in Indiana, about a half an hour apart in different towns. He just bought a house he's about to lose because he's unemployed. I'm a student and currently living with my family. I'm not breastfeeding.

My questions: Is it likely he'd be granted unsupervised or overnight visitation? Can I request that he be forced to take parenting and newborn classes before he can take her without my being there?

[cdad]

There are many variables at this time. But first and foremost you need to go to court for custody and visitation. So that way you will know where you stand. Right now the iron is still hot from the breakup. How far away is he wanting to take the child?

Also asking for parenting classes may or may not be out of line for your situation. Maybe supervised visits might work for the first while and be supervised by his mom etc. So he's not alone with the child until he proves himself. He may be totally different when not around you and is just doing things to get under your skin.

File right away in court and get this matter settled.

[adtirey]

Well he's 36, so having his mom supervise isn't much of an option, and even if it was, he also complains at how lazy she is about parenting his niece and nephew (they're raising their grandkids from his brother) He's wanting to take her anywhere from a half hour to hour away, throughout indianapolis. Including family members' houses that I've never met.

[Fr_Chuck]

First he is the father, and being blunt, if you did not think he could take care of a child, you did not need to have a child with him.

And yes, he will get visits away from you, he can not be forced to visit with HIS child in your home and always with you there.

He may be forced to make it supervised with someone else that you both can agree to, ( or that the court will assign)

But most likely at most he will be required to take a parently class and be awarded visitation, including over night visits at his home.

Just one word, you really need to get use to the idea, it is his child also