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tay0909 · Dec 18, 2010, 02:45 PM

8 months ago she had broken up with her first real relationship and it ended badly with the guy cheating on her with multiple girls. We been recently going out for 2 months and we like each other a lot and I feel like I am what's best for her. She ask me this morning if we could take a break because we were starting to fall out a little from her problem and she doesn't want that to happen. She says she wants us to still happen and that we agreed to go on dates and have fun and not one on one alone time because it gets her thinking and all she wants is to have her head distracted. She basically wants some time to forgot about her past. She held hands with me and kissed me saying see you soon when she left home. Can you give me you're opinoin on what is happening?

Jiser · Dec 18, 2010, 09:12 PM

Who knows.

Let her have a 'break'. Think logically and not with your emotions.

Sorry but this is most likely a breakup. So treat it as such. Go no contact. Stay busy, do your hobbies and have fun.

Go about your life and let her come back if she wants to. Trust me this will work so much better. If your mind is wondering too much then think about things like your career, travel, seeing new things or planning something exciting without her.

talaniman · Dec 19, 2010, 08:31 AM

She hasn't had a proper healing, and time to herself to unpack her baggage, and move beyond her failed relationship, and emotional break up. Obviously the 6 months were not enough before you came along. You think you know best what she needs, but you don't, and your position is unfairly influenced by your own wants, and needs.

Give her what she asked for, space and friendship. If you can't she will surely find someone who can, and know this isn't an easy thing to do. You had a taste, and want more, will always think you will eventually get more. But seldom does it work that way. More than likely, when she is stronger emotionally, she will be grateful to you, but not have the kind of love for you that you have patiently been waiting for.

She will be able to see the world, and all the options, and opportunities that are before her, and want to explore. I have no doubt thats what she is already feeling.

The only way I see you surviving this change is accepting her feelings, supporting them, and make some drastic adjustments to your expectations, thinking, and actions. If you do not, I think you face misery, disappointment fed and made worse by the false hope her feelings will go back to the way they were when you first met. Trust me, they will not.

Every thing has changed, and you have to change also. If you cannot, at least have the decency to be honest about it, and end this, and you both take time to deal with your issues apart, so as not stopping the other from getting what they need, even if its not the way you both want things to be.

Sorry, I know you have high hopes for a future, but you better be practical, and realistic, because she has already made adjustments to slow things down, and give herself plenty of room, and time to, weigh her own options, and make her own adjustments.

shiaray · Dec 30, 2010, 11:00 PM

I think she still likes you, but she is comfused and not sure what she should do because of her previous relationship. You should try telling her that you love her, will give her as much time as she needs, and that you will never hurt her. Remember she doesn't want hurt like she was before.. good luck.