[Jiser]

Haven't been on here for so long!

But hey here it goes. So I went travelling with this girl as part of a tour which lasted a month last year. I clicked with her so much. We had so much fun. THen I found out she was dating the older tour guide. Of course it was so painful to see someone who I clicked with so well with him but still! Forward on 14 months later and I had completely moved on but still knew deep down that this girl was cool!

I saw her this weekend for the first time since then and again we just got on so well. Only here for two days visit and she travelled over 12 hours (she has been travelling) to see me and now she has gone from my life to fly home (I am living abroad). These two days have been amazing, we did so much, we had so much banter, connection, nothing sexual happened but now she has gone I feel like something is missing from my life - her!

She's now moving to another country for a year or two and probably won't see her again for a while which I guess is good. I guess what I am trying to say if she was one of the 'ones who could make my life fufilled' it would be her.

I am also now suffering from bad anxiety and I can't her off my mind! Its horrible.

A case of unrequited love? Maybe. I just want advise from someone and other peoples experience as I am going through a bad time right now! I feel like nobody or anyone can match up to her which they can't as I haven't met anyone quite like that who I click with...

[talaniman]

Hi Jiser, it has been a while hasn't it. You lucky dog, you, traveling around and having fun, and meeting new people and all. Yes of course I am a bit jealous.

But to your situation, I don't think that its all that unusual to meet someone who stands out above others, or to keep them in your memory, more than others. Its also common to dwell longer on the ones that are so unavailable to us. That's normal, and will pass as you get into your routine, and have more things to think about.

The feelings fade, and as you know from being around here, its always about how you cope with those feelings. Accepting situations you can't change is what we start with, and seeing FACTS, helps us with the feelings.

I guess being in new and exotic places a lot can have intense feelings for others you meet and run into stay longer on you mind, and wish you could see them more, but we can't always have what we want and it's a bit frustrating, but what's a poor guy to do?

Surprised you didn't get her number, email, or Facebook to keep in touch with what sounds like a very busy lady, but we all know how hard it is to miss someone who we wished we could see more of.

Just don't get carried away with yourself, and keep it real in your own world. You will be fine and other things will catch your attention again.

Good luck my friend, and glad you are still doing your own thing and enjoying it. I will just sit here, and be jealous I guess.

[Jiser]

Hi thanks tali!

Yes moved to New York for a year from the U.K. and will be returning in several months, this has helped a great deal with growing as a person but again the problem of 'love' (used in a loose word here) hasn't really changed.

Yes I have Facebook and all the rest. So contact is no problem. I guess without telling them your true feeling you will always never know. However this risks keeping them in your life for the future.

As you say though I just have to accept reality and what will not be and get back into the routine of daily lifE. Move on with career, forward and perhaps one day! I still haven't met anyone yet :(

[talaniman]

Talaniman Rule - Date them all, short, fat, skinny, or tall. 18- 80, blind, cripple or crazy.

I had a blast back in the day!!