[LadyLuckyy]

Well, this is really a strange problem for me. I never met this be4.

We just knew each other 9months ago. And kept in touch but NOT Frequently chat（almost two weeks）which makes me sick. We had good chats, but I feel weird that he seems don't want to chat with me more details. Sometimes he was in invisible or in the status "away"(mostly even in weekends ) while I waiting for him online. So I think he didn't like to talk to me. But after some time, he started to text me "hi "and began to chat again! When I asked him why he disappeared often,he said he's busy(workin). Remember one day I send an email to him to tell that I was feeling to be neglected, and, with no responding. Then next time when I chatted with him and asked if he got the email, he said he's busy and had no time for it. :confused: he said I have him who likes me, OK suppose its true, why he doest talk to me often and more? Each time we have a short chat, he didn't tell me more about his details and also he didn't ask me more about mine. So I don't know him very well, and one time, finally , he asked to meet me, and want to stay at my place 1 month which makes me surprised. He said if he really likes me he would try to be with me and would like to make me there be with him. The key is, he mentioned sexual things that made me feel not good. I refused. I am going to think about it.
Now still the same, chatin some times ,I can't get more imformation about him, I feel hesitated，little misery, because I got little feelins for him. Should I delete ?:mad:

[Homegirl 50]

Yes delete him.
He is a chat buddy and would be open to being a sex buddy. Stop acting desperate and be done with him. Delete him.

[Alty]

little misery, because I got little feelins for him.

If you have little feelings for him, which means you're not interested, than deleting him shouldn't be a problem.

It's not like you really know him. Like you said, he doesn't share anything about himself with you, so you really don't know who he is.

Delete and move on.

[Enigma1999]

I don't see any good coming out of this.

I see YOU getting hurt.

Just know that according to your story, he doesn't care about you or you feelings.

Also, it's not very healthy to be waiting and waiting for him online.

I would just cut off all ties with him and focus on being with someone you get to see in person and who will take YOUR feelings into consideration.

Good Luck.

[Jessicacn]

I advise to keep dating others,but no need to delete him as long as you are strong inside. He is just a guy who talks with you like social friends . He did not hurt you because he never said something to confuse you. He just not such fall into you.

[LadyLuckyy]

Yes he made me feel confused. The whole process I feel strange about him,even, abit abnormal.

[Homegirl 50]

yes he made me feel confused. the whole process i feel strange abt him,even, abit abnormal.

Then there is no reason to continue to talk to him.
Be done with it. Why have confusion when you can push a button and be done with it?

[ITstudent2006]

You said it yourself he confuses you with his actions, you feel neglected, he never talks to you.

How many people have to say DELETE for you to understand that it is in your best interest to walk away?

[LadyLuckyy]

I ve already deleted him.and blocked. Thank u , all guys.

[LadyLuckyy]

I feel much better now.

[Homegirl 50]

Good girl!

[LadyLuckyy]

Well,I stilll don't understand, I never succeed. I am not that bad looking, there are many guys around me actually which I am not into. What I am really into is always hurting me. I can get in a relationship easily with guys around me, but I hardly can get a guy I really like. Most (in real handsome) they are either using me (want sex) or in a complex situation. I confused most of time. So, is there something wrong with this? Or is there sth wrong with my direction? Or, I don't know how to pick up a right person?

[Homegirl 50]

Don't take it personally.
There are some guys who are just creeps!
There are some guys who are users, who only want sex, who think the world revolves around them. It has nothing to do with you.
Take your time and get to know a guy as a friend, not a potential boy friend. It removes some of the pressure.
Don't take the Online stuff to seriously.

[ITstudent2006]

I agree with homegirl50 on that fact that you don' want to be getting to know people and hanging out with people becase they may be a potential b/f. To truly know somebody put all biased potential yada yada's aside and get to know them on a friendly level first. Not only will this give you a clean unbiased look at the way that person is but you also aren't confused, used or hurt by this!

Good Luck,

Rick


P.S. The comment aboe about "there are some guys who are suers, who only want sec, who think the world revolves around them."

This is very true, but then again it's not just men, not whiteman, blackmen, its also feamles; of all color and race, weight and height. Knowing this and knowing what it is you want is usually a good start in finding somebody that makes you truly happy! No body knows you better then you.

[Homegirl 50]

I agree. I did not mean all men, that is why I said some, and I said guys because I was speaking to a female. Had I been speaking to a male I would have said some girls.

[ITstudent2006]

I wasn't argueing with what you said. No need to justify yourself here!

[LadyLuckyy]

I see.