[britaay011]

Okay, I need some advice very badly. I'm so unsure what to do. My and my boyfriend broke up after 7 months, but not only was he my boyfriend, he was my Best friend. He would date me, then break up with me, date me then want me back, and he did this literally 17 times throughout the 7 months. Yes, I kept going back to him, because I loved him. Towards October, we were perfectly fine. Then randomly one day, he just broke up with me and not even two days later he was holding hands with another girl. They are dating now, and it upsets me so much. But I've finally become strong about it, and moved on. Now on to my point of this page. My friend is dating a guy, and suggested her boyfriends friend to me. His name is Sam, and she said he is a cool guy. Then, she told me that he liked me. And I don't really know him well but at a party (while I was dating my ex) he tried flirting with me and stuff but I was kind of oblivious to it because I was dating my ex at the time and I wasn't really interested. She told me he liked me, and so then I started liking him. We ended up hanging out, because my friend told him I liked him too. We didn't really talk about "us" when we hung out, but about ourselves and stuff, since we aren't really close. Now, I have started to like him a lot more. But the problem is, he NEVER talks to me. I have asked many people, including my friend, what his deal is. My friend and everyone else I've asked has told me "He's shy, he's nervous around girls, and he's intimidated because I'm a senior and he's a junior". Also they've said "I''ve never seen sam with a girlfriend and he doesn't really associate with woman". And I kept complaining to my friend because I really like him, but he won't talk to me. She said he isn't really a texter, so he won't text me. And he needs time and I should be patient with him. So I decided to take matters into my own hands, rather than keep going through my friend. I texted him myself and asked him straight out if he liked me. He said "yeahh I like you haha." And I told him I was glad and I would have asked him in person rather than over text but he never talks to me. His response was, "Sorry. I would rather hangout with somone than text them a lot. And I'm always busy." and I told him I would rather hangout too. He said we will sometime. He said he wasn't sure was he was doing that weekend. I told him if he wasn't doing anything we should hangout. All weekend he didn't text me. Nothing. And I go to school, and all he does is walk by me and smile, or sometimes not even that, he'll look down, he won't talk to me or anything. I don't know what to do :( I really like him now and since I just got hurt, I don't want to already get hurt over again, but I can't help that I like him already. I don't know if I should take into consideration what my friend said about him being shy and giving him time, or should I just give up. Because honestly, it's common sense when you like someone. You don't just NOT talk to them. Like yeah, he said we will hangout, but in order to hangout we have to TALK. But we don't. And he wouldn't tell me he liked me if he didn't. I'm so lost, and I don't know what to do. I text him first all the time, so it makes me feel like I'm the only one trying and I'm the only one actually making an effort. I feel like I'm annoying him :( PLEASEE HELP!

[ironhide262]

First... I think you are totally insane for going back to your first boyfriend 17 times before you finally realized what kind of guy he was. You need to take a sign as a sign. Most people would have quite after the second time!

OK, on to your current dilema. Hey, you've tried hard enough with this guy haven't you? He's not just going to change. How can you form a relationship with a guy who doesn't even aknowledge you as he is passing by? You need to stop "hanging in there" so long... why hold up an opportunity to meet someone better while you wait for someone who can't even talk to you? Move on, dump this guy. There are way better guys out there.

[talaniman]

In light of your past history with guys, and especially this one, leave him alone, and be single.

[Jessica_Tilton]

Let's say like you're situation is like an apple growing on a tree. You are the apple and the guy is a tree. If you hang there too long you'll ripe and grew older until the day you lost you're believes on man. When the time is right, an apple must drop from the big tree and be picked by the right guy. Dump that guy who cares if you're single there is always someone out there interested in you and by that time you'll turn around to both of them and said "It's your own lost not to choose me."