[Mizunoman]

I recently was contacted by an old girlfriend through Facebook.. After 10 years away from each other I got married and since divorced.. No children.. She is married and has a 2 year old son. She told me that she was not complete with her husband, he doesn't give her the attention she needs although she does love him, but more like a friend... She says she is scared because she loves me like she has never loved another man.. She says she compares all her previous men to me but nobody has ever made her feel like I do.. We have had descreet meetings and made love 4 times.. I thought I was with the right women but since this has happened I realise I'm not and I'm also feeling very strong thoughts for this women.. I am too in love, she is beautiful.. The trouble we both have, neither of us know we can live together and we don't want to cause the harm and upset that we clearly will do... The boy is the main concern and I don't want him to be torn from his father.. I really don't know what to do but how I can I stop this love and these such strong feelings for such a beautiful women?

[Synnen]

You stay away from her, tell her to get counseling to either leave her marriage or fix it, and YOU don't have anything to do with it until she makes her choice.

She ALSO needs to come clean with her husband about her cheating. HE has the right to decide whether he wants to stay in the relationship based on the facts, too. Also--please realize that the baby might be "torn from" the mother. In some cases, custody can go to the FATHER when the mother is shown to be of low moral character.

Either way---YOU have nothing to do with it at this point. SHE needs to figure out whether she wants to be a lying, cheating woman or if she wants to honor her marriage vows.

[Devorameira]

You need to break this off before it goes any further. You should have never gotten involved with her. She should have remained off-limits.

My advice to you is to stop having the affair. Even if the two of you could be together, you would never be able to trust each other. If she's cheating on him, she'd cheat on you too.

Why would you want to be with someone who obviously is using you. She isn't going to leave her husband. You are obviously not going to have a future with this woman, so do yourself a favor and end it. You deserve better.

Consider going no contact and move on.

[Mizunoman]

Thank you. I will take your much needed advice onboard.