[OldNewYorker]

We are a Jewish family. Our son is dating a Born Again Christian girl. My question is: how can our son be with someone
Who has told us that we are NOT good enough to go to heaven, that my parents (may they rest in peace) are not welcome
Into the kingdom of heaven. Her family prays that we will accept, you know who, as our savior. She claims to be a Christian
Woman, with a capital C. She is always telling me that she does and does not do certain things because she is a "Good Christian Woman". We have other intermarried couples in our family, but the Christian half do not denigrate the Jewish half. Christmas is presents and Easter is chocolate bunnies. These 2 like each other, but have NEVER had any serious discussions about what the future would hold. People from her Church keep coming up to me quoting Corithinians 6:14 (2 Cor. 6:14,).. "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?" This is scary stuff to me, calling me, my family and all my relative "darkness". I fear she will end up resentful and mixed up if she continues dating our son. How do we encourage her to find a nice Christian man with as strong beliefs as hers. It would make her life much less complicated. Should I go speak to the Pastor at her church and ask him to intervene? Or just wait it out as I have been doing? I keep quiet and cry a lot when I am alone.

[zackieboy]

Hi, this is a very touchy situation and I would not want you to feel the same way about me as you feel about her. I am also a reborn christian saved by the blood of Jesus. If she is trying to convince you in love, I agree with her. The word of God does say that if you do not accept the Son of God, Jesus, as your saviour, you will not enter the Kindom of God. I do not want you to feel you are being judged or that someone is trying to convince you to do something against your will. It is not for me or her to judge, we can only plant the seed and let God make it grow. I will stand by Jews across the world as they are the chosen children of God. Read the old testiment thoroughly and see why God punished His people. There is a few places in the old and new testament in the Bible where God said that He will make His people get to see the truth. Then they will acknowledge His Son as Jesus. If this is really bothering you then maybe you should go on your knees, fast and pray that God will give you the answers. This might be where God wants to bring a change in your life. God Bless you in the name of His Son Jesus

[jmjoseph]

Have faith in your son to make the right decision on spending his time with this woman.

She, and her congregation, have no right to judge you and your family based on your religious beliefs.

They should be ashamed of themselves.

Just wait and let this mess take it's course. Meanwhile remind these people that it is a sin to judge.

I would seek counsel from your Rabbi.

May God grant you peace.

[excon]

Hello you old cocker..

I just advised a young lady who was dating a boy where the parents had TOO much influence over him. I told her that at some time or other, her boyfriend is going to tell his parents to butt out. IF this was that time, she should stick with him. If not, she should move on...

Maybe your nice Jewish boy WANTS to get reborn. If he does, then he DOES, and you can't do anything about it anyway. Or, he'll see that it is incompatible with his life. Now, if he's 14, things are different... But, I gather he's an adult. You DID your job. It's now HIS turn at the helm.

excon

[ADL62]

OK, I'm a nice Jewish boy and fully understand your situation as half of my family is Christian too, with one insane and unintelligent born again thrown n the mix. You're in a predicament and I empathize. I would first go to her and explain that the things she says are alienating, rooted is self righteousness, and not aligned with Jewish believes or sensitivities. Explain to her that this is dogmatic and divisive. Explain that the nature of born again belief creates an air of intolerance of Jews, and that it doesn't being people closer or more aligned with one another on thesimple human level. Trust that your son will come around. Maybe he sees something in her now that is attractive, sweet or sexy, but with time his Jewish heart and eyes will start to see the ugliness of her type of Christianity and how it literally casts him aside as other. Trust that he will soon feel the oppressiveness of the otherness she has made him. With that, just let time go by, limit your contact with her, and let the relationship play out as it will. Trust me, there will be no melding of hearts here. Its destine for failure. There is just no way it can ever work, because truly, deep down in her heart, she doesn't want to be with a non-christian, a nonbeliever, and G-d forbid a Jew! Watch, it'll end, and when it finally does she'll be the one to finally terminate the relationship, you just wait and see. Theirs is not a religion of tolerance and acceptance. She'll be forced to end it by the convictions of her (ridiculous) beliefs. Sorry if I don't sound "respectful" here, but the truth be told... I don't respect this brand of divisive and poisonous type of Christianity. I respect it about as much as I respect the anti-Zionist zealots "big black hatters" in my country (Israel).