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a-lilly530 · Jan 22, 2007, 12:16 AM

My ex broke up 6 months ago, we were culturally defferent. He accepted the fact and suddenly changed his mind. He did it over the phone and I was devastated cause everything was going so well. Till the last conversation he was telling me that he really likes me. The next day I called him back trying to save this relationship since both of us were happy but he refused. After 6 months I figured out some mistakes that we both made now I bilieve that I can get him back with a good plan by saying the right words. Does anybody knows a good plan to try to save a nice relathionship...
I think by trying to get him back the first time was wrong just because I was telling him I love him and that was wrong in the love game( did not have enough experience) who can provide me with a fgood plan
Thanks

chuff · Jan 22, 2007, 12:25 AM

He dumped you, correct? Why would he want to go back then?

chippers · Jan 22, 2007, 12:58 AM

There is really no tried and true way of winning him back. I don't see where you did anything wrong. Maybe he wasn't ready to commit to you. It's been six months.have you heard from him? Has he given you any indication he might want to get back with you?

JoeCanada76 · Jan 22, 2007, 04:06 AM

Chuff, I wanted to give you a comment to but could not.

Chuff, Had every right to ask you that question? He dumped you the question is why would you want him back? Or you did not like that because you have no idea how to answer that.

The plan is there is no way to get somebody back if they do not want to be with you. You need to face reality and realize it is over, and that you are better off without him.

What do you mean by culture difference? What is the difference? I know it is hard because that can cause rifts, especially with family. This is from experience.

No matter the reason, you need to let go of this person. Why would you want to be with somebody that does not feel the same about you or does not want to be with you.

Please move forward instead of living in the past, because if you continue living this way it will be your own downfall.

Joe

Geoffersonairplane · Jan 22, 2007, 04:59 AM

Jesushelper has said it best and I totally agree, why would you want someone back who does not love you? And it has been 6 months and he has given you no reason to think (from what you have said) that he wants you back. I don't like the fact that he chose to break up with you over the phone as opposed to the Adult way which would be to your face.

I would say, let him go and begin to heal and move on with your life, it will hurt for a while but you will get through it.. Trust Me!

chuff · Jan 22, 2007, 08:33 AM

"a-lilly530 disagrees: i asked a speciohic question the reply does not answer my q at all"

Congratulations. Some of those words are in English.

That is not what the disagree box it for. And it goes against the rules of this website.

I'm sorry that those 12 words, two questions made you think this was unrealistic.

So call him and get laughed at by the guy that dumped you 6 months ago and make him wonder how great he must be to have you still hanging on to some kind of hope.

In future relationships you might want to put an emphasis on listening, understanding and being realistic though.

talaniman · Jan 22, 2007, 08:46 AM

Comments on this post a-lilly530 disagrees: I asked a speciohic question the reply does not answer my q at all

This is a perfect example of a closed minded person looking for validation. Don't they know that their questions raise questions, and if they don't want to answer they should stay home and call the psychic hot line.

chuff · Jan 22, 2007, 11:07 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

This is a perfect example of a closed minded person looking for validation. Don't they know that their questions raise questions, and if they don't want to answer they should stay home and call the psychic hot line.

Well I had to spread it but obviously I agree. You try and help someone and they get upset with you? Even if my opinion is wrong, which we all know it's not, but even if it was I was attempting to make her think outside her fantasy world.

momincali · Jan 22, 2007, 03:11 PM

Why are you trying to scheme (you call it a plan) your way back into his life? If he broke up with you, he clearly doesn't want to be with you, words won't keep someone apart if they really want something. Respect his wishes, if he chooses not to be with you and its been 6 MONTHS, leave him alone and move on. Understand that liking someone isn't enough, everything has to fall into place for it to succeed and obviously he didn't feel that he had everything he needed out of this relationship.

Cultural differences can be difficult to get past and sometimes it's best not to try.

Again, be respectful and abide by his wishes. That would be the nice thing to do.

iggy89 · Jan 22, 2007, 03:25 PM

I think you should call him. But don't go pouring your feelings out at him ask him how he's been, how he feels about you ask him if he would ever get back together with you. If he says no or anything like it drop it stay friends or never talk to him again whatever works for you. If he says yes tell him how you've been feeling but don't make it sound like your desperite. Tell him you still have strong feelings for him and would like to work on building the relationship again, don't fall to fast. Take your time to get to know him all over again. Talk to him about why things didn't work about before and if it seems resonable try to work things out. Good luck hun I'm trying to get my ex back too!