[kathmustdie]

Been in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years , I never met this girl in real. Its because of my college , I do not get anytime. I promised her I would this year in October , but suddenly I had a humanities study trip for 2 weeks. When I told her this , she didn't say anything. However I don't not see that motivation in her anymore , its more like she doesn't care.

Since she has university , she is not at home. I always call and text , but I haven't seen her for almost 3 months (as in via webcam) . I buy this girl gifts etc , but I still don't get the feeling of being "wanted" . I feel lonely , and I buy this girl gifts and everything.

Before I went for my humanities trip , we had an argument. We didn't speak for 5 days . On the night of the 5th I got frustrated and called her and yelled and cursed telling she doesn't care about this relationship and she should put more effort and time. She says she should not be the one doing it. We made up , on that day

However she never asks me how I am , or anything . She just says "hi" even after asking how she is. I just get a "Hi" . I got really angry I got angry and kept saying "hi" for 60 times.. and went like " there i said hi for a 2 months worth" and log off. She calls me immature , I am just really frustrated. I got back online and left her a message saying we should break up since its not working out and I called her a snob too. Its been almost a week , she hasn't texted or called to talk about it .

I did all of this to make her realize I care. I know I disappointed her by not meeting her , but I can't sacrifice my college. She has a spare Facebook account , so I log onto it and stalk her (since she blocked me off facebook) . She has the time to communicate with her friends and not me and at least try to contact me , she broke up several times with me in the past and I was the one always coming back. I want her back , but I don't want to initiate it at all. I also been calling her on my skype account several times using an unknown number and not saying anything.

She just doesn't want to reply or talk about it. I don't want to do it , because I would feel like a tool (because I got back several times when she broke up) . I want to know how important I am , but I just can't stop stalking her at all. How do I go about winning her back , I don't want to communicate with her.

Can you guys please give me some ideas?

[ironhide262]

2 years? Really ? 2 years and you have never actually, physically met this girl?
Please see this relationship for what it is worth. You need to be physically with someone to make a relationship last or even work.
Who knows how long she has been stringing you along?
Are there no girls in the college you go to? Don't get me wrong... it's great that you can meet people and connect online but, that physical interaction is just as important( if not more) than everything else in a relationship. How long did you expect this girl ( or more importantly YOU) to wait?
I think long distance relationships don't have a hope in hell of working out unless both partners agree to a date where they can actually physically meet otherwise, like yours, it's doomed to fail.

On top of that you are stalking her over the internet. Skyping her through an unknown number... these sort of actions will just drive her away and get you no where.
Trust me dude... this girl is just plain fed up with the relationship and so should you! I'm sure she is probably wondering what you are holding on too.

Accept the fact that she is gone... you never really had a full relationship anyway. You have your own future to think about right now and I hope that includes spending time with a girl that is actually around you.

[DonaldsonP]

Hey, honestly this seems like a failed relationship. There are a couple things that make a good relationship and they're always different in every relationship, but one that is almost always there is physical interaction, without that the relationship starts with a severe handicap. And minus good communication between you there was never any shot. It's time for you to understand that she doesn't wasn't you back and you need to move on for your own good. And advice for the next relationship is learn to communicate better. Don't sit there and say "hi" 60 times. Instead tell her that you're frustrated that she doesn't ask you how you are. This is a lot better because it gets you're point across better and you don't sound mean. This will also encourage her to talk to you in the same way resulting in much better communication and an overall healthier relationship.

[talaniman]

Two years without meeting? You should have been dumped a year and a half ago

I think this online thing is over, and you should let it go, and leave her alone. Gifts cannot replace being there.