[Elhan2222]

Ok so I've been with my boyfriend for the last two years ,
And we have had amazing times together but for the last year we have gotten into arguments on and off through the year and most of them have been caused by one of us either drinking , or having petty fights over affection is it normal to ask my man for consitant affection , as well as with our last fight I was drunk and told him off for his mate consitantly joking around saying my mans been cheating was it wrong of me? Ive tried bringing this subject up before but he says it's my resposiblity for sticking Up for myself as well as he says he would never cheat , we have had our talks and he now reckons it's best if we both end it , he says he cares for me a lot and loves me but why would u want to break up if that's the case Is it because he can't handle the emotional hurt of us consitantly fighting? Would we be able to mend things and repair our relationship or is it a lost cause ? How would I know how much he really does care for me and how would I tell if he wants to stay with me ?

[valeryvaladez]

As for the drinking either booth of you should stop or it won't lead to anything good and since you both been together for 2 years see let see how I can explain a guy is more calm more chill then a females as for man once in a relationship with the female they get used to us and so needing affection is something they've gone passed where as us females expect it constantly.. for better understanding guys are way if then females in a relationship guys aren't like kids the females are guys can live day by day where as us it has to be affection and all that lubby dubby . And as for you telling your man roommate yes it was wrong in a way since you were drunk no one is ever right when there drunk and approach people since it lleads to problems.. bt letting him no istn wrong. And for the break up thing from what I think since I've lived pratically with a guy my whole life guys are like this if it happens once its goonaa happen twice and you being drunk didn't help it added more to it well I hope you get what I try to say bt never think negative cuase uasully we as people make it worse then what it really is

[momilee]

You can't ask for constant affection, because it makes your relationship a job for him instead of something enjoyable. If there is no affection, then you need to speak up, but constant affection is not a healthy expectation.

I don't understand why his friend would joke about him cheating. It seems very inappropriate. It seems he would want to make his friend stop, since it is rude and causes questions in your mind. Why would a friend tell on a friend for cheating if they really weren't? Why would he be so disrespectful to you? And yes, while you should absolutely be able to stick up for yourself, and should do so, you also deserve to have a boyfriend who will stick up for you as well, especially if it's one of his own friends that are disrespecting you and making you feel uncomfortable.

As far as if he wants to be with you? He wants to break up. I know when the guys say they still love you, it makes you feel there is still hope and they're saying something else. The truth is that he means one of two things:

1) He doesn't want to be with you, and he's letting you down gently. Even if he does feel love, he still wants out, and love and begging won't stop him. Or-

2) He doesn't want to break up, he wants to scare you into submission. He scares you into thinking he will break up with you, and then his friends can be rude to you, he can cheat or appear like he may be because of his friends, the affection will be at the level he wants it, and you'll step on egg shells to make sure the relationship is what he wants it to be, and you won't inconvenience him with your own needs.

I would start the process of mourning and then getting over him. This probably isn't the last heartache this relationship will have.