[jermso]

For 3monthes now I have been having sexual relationship with a certain girl,at first we considered it as just having fun bt as time went I fell in love and at somepoint I cn say she did too but the problem is she have a boyfriend so she says there is no any chance for me and her to be lovers,we still do having fun and she olways come to me crying teling me how bad his man treats her and she told me if I love and need heq I have to make her forget him. please advice me how to do that and do I have to do that?

[Eileen G]

I'm sorry, but my advice is to get out of this relationship.

You are in love with a girl who is having sex with you while she already has boyfriend. She has been lying to him about you, so there's a good chance she is lying to you about him.

She's not married or anything, so there's no reason for her to stay with a boy who hurts her. So either he's not hurting her, or she is twisted enough to enjoy a relationship with someone who is abusing her.

Get out now.

[IrisSees]

In my point of view, I'm thinking no. The way she says that "she has a boyfriend so she says there is no any chance for you and her to be lovers." -That's an excuse, or a barrier meaning that she doesn't feel the same way. But, I'm thinking she sees you as a really comfortable friend, the way she comes to you for help when she's having relationship problems. If you really care for the girl, that's fine. It's up to you to stay with her. But it would be healthier to find another girl to call your own.

A way you can tell if the girl you have the sexual relationship with really likes you or not is if she knows you have a girlfriend too. If she gets upset that you have a girlfriend... That's when you know she has feelings for you! But hey, she has a boyfriend too, so she shouldn't be that upset about it.

Again, it's up to you to decide what you are going to do with her. If you don't want to risk your relationship from drifting away, don't try my example up there. I'm just saying my point of view as a girl. *cough* she might be using you! *cough* Thanks for reading.

[simii]

Sorry to tell you but I will agree with eileen here... she is cheating her boyfriend with you for some fun so best possibility she can even do that to you and if her current boyfriend is so bad and hurting her than why not to leave him no one wants to be in a offensive relationship. And why the hell on earth you should make her forget that guy you love her and its her work to get out of that relationship and get over him not your duty... please DON`T play with your feelings because this girl is going to hurt you badly... even if you try to make her forget that guy what if later she goes and even cheats you? If she have feelings for you than she should leave that guy and come to you which she is not ready to do... don`t fool yourself here please GET OUT NOW from there she is not worth it... if you want to continue having fun with her than its your take but if you are getting emotionally involved here than my suggestion would be forget this relationship find some who can be loyal to you.

[Jake2008]

Would you treat someone the same way she is treating you?

It really doesn't matter what her circumstances are, or who she chooses as a boyfriend, or whether she has one boyfriend, or two. It only matters that you would be involved with a woman who uses two men at the same time. You being one of them.

You are being used, and the relationship is not a healthy one. You cannot rescue her because she does not wish to be rescued, or she would have left boyfriend #1 a long time ago. She chooses to stay with him.

You may want to think about who's needs are being met here. Hers certainly are, she can use you whenever she likes. Then she runs back to her boyfriend.

Your needs are what is important now. If there is no future, no commitment, no hope, what are you hanging onto. Her needs seem to far exceed yours.

In answer to your question, "Does she want me too", I would say yes, but for all the wrong reasons.