[anu896]

*** read it fully, this isn't a fake story.. I seriously need help..
Am in love with a guy who also love me... we are of same religion(hindu) but of diffrnt caste.. am 20 and he is 24.. we know each othr for about 3 n half yrs.. he den proposed me.. but I said no to him I didn't have ny kind of feeling for him.. he kept on saying this and promised me that he would nevr leave me and that his parents would definitely agree to our relation.. he's from a rich family background and me from and avg family.. I then said there's time and I would tell him the anwer when the time comes.. bt he wanted a yes so soon that his parents may look for anothr gal if I don't say yes.. if I say yes he could tel his parents.. then one day me and ma mom met him.. ma mom liked him.. I too fell in love with him all of a sudden and told him yes.. he then told his mom about me and showed her ma picture.. but then sher did nt say a word about it... he kept on telling her mom.. finally his dad and mom askd him to stop this relation or else he would be out of their family.. they want a gal who is from the same caste and that so beautiful one.. from then dey were quite angry at me.. he had no option.. he loves me.. n his family too.. he can't leave his family as he depends on his family though he has a good job.. n den he askd me to move on..
Then it was when this tragic scene happens.. the next day my dad got hospitalised due to severe illnes and I was so lonely.. I felt like I need him so badly to be wit me.. he felt really sad about me and told his parents about my pathetic condition... they really felt sad.. it was like as if they were broken down when they heard about ma situation.. his parents told that they would help in watevr way and all such thngs..
The next tragic situation is that aftr this hapnd his dad got hospitalised due cancer.. now his dad says he somehow wants him to get married so soon.. he then gave some more hope that this relation can be taken further.. but aftr some days he again askd me to forget it.. he gave me so much of hope.. I don't know what to do.. I can't go for any other guy.. I feel this is the right guy for me.. he love me but he can't leave his family.. we are so helpless.. I want his parents to get convinced and agree wit our relation.. *** guys, though you may feel it silly by reading it, this is so imp for me.. I need help :((

[Alty]

I don't understand the whole caste thing, but from reading other posts on this site I understand that caste is very important, and you are never to marry outside your caste.

It sounds like his family is adamant that you are not good enough for their son. Sadly he's dependent on them, so I can't see him going over their heads to be with you. He's made it clear that he won't go against his family, and you will have to accept that.

I'm sorry that you're going through this. I can't understand why people let social status, or religious differences get in the way of being with the one you love. It makes me very glad that I was free to marry for love.

You will get over it, I promise you. It seems you don't have any other choice.

Good luck.

[gara]

I think you have to go straight to his mother and talk to him and prove to her that you loved him , but I think love won't have solution for every thing , I think you have to proof you are the one for him some how , talk to them

[talaniman]

I don't think this will work, and I think his mom will never budge, even though his sick father has. That he is unwilling to go against his mom, this is hopeless unless you can get an older religious leader to speak on behalf of you both, to his mother.

[simii]

Hey I can understand how caste and all is important for parents but in your case I can just say that let him go and you please move on in life his family won't give in for you and he know that than why is he coming and give you hope again and again he should be sure 1st than only come and talk to you about all this! He should be 1st clear than come and talk to you... he is sure that he will do what ever his family has decided. Either ask him to talk to his dad and explain how he feels for you and how serious he is for you as because of his dad only he wants to marry early. So ask him to talk to his dad. And one more thing I want you to ask yourself do you want go and get married in a family where beauty and caste are priority than the person. And if he is so much dependent on his family later also your would me mom in law can harass you because off this so do you really think this will be good for you in our society marriage is a big thing so think about all the pros and cons. But best is let him go and leave this relationship here with dignity and respect for yourself please because to move on from a relationship is really hard so you have to try from now. Later if he don`t marry you than it will be too late for you to get into any other relationship so ask him one last time and give him last ultimatum and if nothing happens than just leave him and this relationship here only and try to move on its hard but give yourself time and be in no contact with him and move on.