[chepe15]

My ex girlfriend I were dating for 6 years and all was fine until we got into a huge argument. We ended up breaking up. I told her I needed time to think and breathe because I wasn't so willing to drop a co-worker as a friend when they meant nothing to me in any kind of romantic interest. I did how ever end up going to dinner with her and other friends to get advice and my ex thought it was just me and her... she tried to get me back but demanding me to drop this friend. I had ordered a promise ring before we had broken up, there was shippment issues and didn't get it until 2 weeks ago. Now I went up recently to her house to show my undying love for her, she got mad because I should up and started textin this guy she has been talking to for 3 weeks now, she said she is over me but she is coming down to see me this Sunday to talk to me and see how I am doing... what should I do? Do I keep trying to show my undying love for her and keep trying to win her back? Does she tell me she likes being held by this guy to make me upset?

[talaniman]

How old are you? I don't know if she is trying to make you jealous or not, but she obviously is, and after 6 years, seems the communications would be better. But what I would do is to leave her alone to get over it, or make up her mind about what she needs to do. As you said, you needed time to think any way, so take it now, and do your own thing for a while.

[chepe15]

I have tried doing everything you mentioned but we did have problems talking things out because we are both har headed. I am 24 and I know its young but I can't help the way my heart feels. She is coming down to see me, is this a guilt thing or love?

[chepe15]

I have tried doing everything you mentioned but we did have problems talking things out because we are both har headed. I am 24 and I know its young but I can't help the way my heart feels. She is coming down to see me, is this a guilt thing or love? Everything I have thought about that has to do with girls comes down to her. We went through a situation before where she thought I was cheating 2 years ago but we fixed it and moved on why is this so much more different then that?

[talaniman]

The difference is neither of you is the same person, as life is changing you, as you are both learning and growing, and the challenge is to see if you both are willing to keep working on this relationship, and make adjustments. Its something to talk about, when she comes to visit.

[chepe15]

I appreciate your advice, I guess I don't want to believe that she has lost love for me after 6 years. And I know we grew up as a couple and not as individuals would that play a big part?

[talaniman]

Until we can define ourselves as a person, and know what we want, and how to get it, its very hard to see how we fit with another person. I think most of us change as we get out into the world, and see what options, and opportunities to explore. I don't think she has stopped loving you, just that it has changed because, she wants more from herself, and her life, and this is very normal among young adults. Relationships often run their course as we grow, and our plans and priorities change.

I suspect she wants to be an individual for a while.

[chepe15]

There is truth to what you say... I guess I just don't want to think she will never come back... which she may or may not... its just hard to know it came to an end over something that could have been fixed easily

[talaniman]

If she is still willing to fix them with you. We will see.

[chepe15]

She decided to tell me that she doesn't love me anymore there for my chances are done and over with but thanks for the help