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    Broncofan0789 Posts: 9, Reputation: 3
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    Nov 22, 2010, 09:38 AM
    I am falling for my "friends with benefits" guy. Have seen him over 3 years.
    Hello, everyone. I got divorced almost 3 years ago this December. Recently my serious relationship just split up... as you can see by my other posts. Over 3 years ago, I met a gentleman 6 years younger than I on Match.com. We have been seeing each other for 3 years and 4 months off and on, more on then off. I am really attracted to him as well as he is to me. The sex is the best and he says that is all he wants. We have talked about a relationship and he clearly stated that he only wants sex, but then he acts like he wants more, but seems afraid-previous hurt, I'm sure.
    We have extremely intelligent conversations, get along well and not to mention the great sex!!
    After my boyfriend moved out this past weekend, I texted him and he came over. I hadn't seen him in a year because I was in a relationship at the time.
    He seemed very different- not in a hurry to leave, we talked for a long time and he seemed very interested in what I was doing, told me about his life the past year. We also talked about how long we have known each other as well. He was very tender and not in a rush like usual.
    I texted him last night after he left and said "Wow, J***, that was awesome, I'm still quivering." He sent me one back early this morning and said "What should we do about it?. I sent him one back saying "What do you mean?". Didnt get an answer for over an hour and then he sent one saying "Good Morning". Huh?
    I started thinking maybe he has more than one "FWB" lady and sent me that one by mistake??
    I really want to have a relationship with him, nothing serious immediately. Can anyone decipher what his above comment meant? Or do you think it was an honest mistake? I don't dare ask him because last year I told him I was seriously falling for him and he said he didn't want that... Help!
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    answerme_tender Posts: 1,148, Reputation: 689
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    Nov 22, 2010, 10:14 AM

    Stop seeing him! You are falling and he Isn't. You and his relationship has always been "The Sex" connection, nothing really more then that. Now your wanting more, he doesn't see you in that perspective. He may never see you that way.

    You just got out of a serious relationship, you haven't even given yourself time to really heal. Don't put yourself in the middle of more drama to heal from. Just walk away.

    Get out with friends. One of the hardest thing to re-learn is to be all alone. Give yourself that healing and growing time. Then and only then take yourself out and find someone. By this time you'll never sell yourself short, or settle for something less then a full relationship. Good luck

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