[emb213]

I've been seeing this guy for around two months now, we met online through some friends and it all kicked off from there. We tend to talk everyday through texts and we try to at least see each other every 1 and a half weeks which sometimes can be a lot more than that. This is mainly because he lives in London and I'm all the way in East Anglia, however his hometown which he now visits regularly is about a 10 minute drive. When I'm with him its perfect, we chat the whole time, make each other laugh, wind each other up and I know from my point of view I haven't cared about someone this much - ever! I can kind of feel that the feeling may be mutual with certain things he does and says, but the question always comes into my head: Does he really mean all this or is it an act?
I trust him a lot, but had some doubts so I was a little sneaky, which I shouldn't have done, and went on his phone. There was messages from one girl asking if he could meet her - which I know for sure never happened. I was up at his house in London this morning and I'd had a dream that night that he'd asked another girl on a date, so again I had to check out his phone and in his first 7 messages I could see he's now texting two other girls with signs of perhaps meeting up with them too. I know a lot of you may say oh you have no trust, but I sit here now and I don't believe he would actually go and meet them, but that cloud is hanging over my head. He even said at dinner yesterday ' How do I know your not doing anything with anyone? I'm not your boyfriend so you can do whatever with anyone you like'.. That to me makes me think he has thought or done stuff with other girls. My reply - I'm a trustworthy girl and I would never do anything with anyone else.
It's so hard to know what to think, I'm so happy but so upset at the same time cause I can feel myself falling for him and I just have that awful feeling I'm going to get hurt.
This makes him sound so awful but he really isn't, he's so kind caring and generous, I couldn't wish for anyone more perfect than him.

Do you think I'm overthinking things and should just take it day by day?
Do you think it's not really that bad him texting other girls? Cause to be honest I don't mind as we are not in a relationship but to do it whilst I'm there is a little hmm.. I think I need some reassurance from you guys!!

[I wish]

It's not just about trust, it sounds more like he's playing the field. He just wants to get to know more girls and see what happens. You just happen to be one of the girls.

He's not in a committed relationship with you, so there's no reason why he can't communicate with other girls.

If you really like him, then just keep enjoying the time that you spend together. Get to know each other better and see how it goes. If he really likes you back, he will make a move. If he hasn't made a move yet it's because he's not ready.

[simii]

To tell you the truth he is just playing around with other girls too as you both are not in relationship so he not bound to anything... so he can talk to other girls too. But to tell you the truth its hard to trust guys like him... if you enjoy his company and like being with him than continue doing that but with out any expectations... be with him as u say he is caring towards you and all than may be he is genuinely considerate towards you. So give it a try but if you are getting emotionally attached to him then think twice before taking a plunge... may be all this will hurt you emotionally... so be sure of what you are doing but by reading your post you really like this guy than take the risk and follow your heart but just don`t be blind behind him and hurt yourself... hope this helps good luck