My girlfriend lost her sex drive
My girlfriend and I have been for 9 month together. She was going through some very rough patches when I met her and I fully supported her (some guys would have just ran away). We broke up after 5-6 months because in that time while I cared about her, I cared more about me and my needs and sometimes I would threaten her and tell her to go home if she won't have sex when I felt like it. After the breaking up we realized we can't live withouth each other and got back togheter, but I changed and never insisted when she wasn't in the mood. The thing is we had a lot of sex at the beginning and I got used to it, plus I'm pretty hung around her. The problem is we ended up having sex 2 times/week and sometimes she would just do it because she felt obligated, plus she never initiated.
I confronted her about this and she said that I'm just obsessed with sex, but I asked around some girl buddies of mine and none of them thought 2 times/week is normal, because I have my own place and we meet every day (she doesn't live with me).
My girlfriend said it could be because she thinks I'm obsessed about having sex, not with her, but in general. I'm not that kind of guy who would jump on any occasion and have sex with anyone, and I tried explaining that to her. We ended up with the agreement that we won't have sex for a month so I could demonstrate that.
My question are:
1. Could she really think that? I told her that I like having sex with her, that's why I want it so often (once every 2 days would be enough, but I won't say no to every day).
2. Am I not attractive to her anymore and this 1 month pause is just perfect to get me off her back? Could she just like me as a friend and have sex from time to time just so we won't break up? (on the 'friend' part we get along perfectly, we could have been BFF in another life).
I told her that I think she doesn't feel the chemistry anymore and she said it's not that and if I don't believe her, we can drop the 1 month pause. If I'm 100% sure she wants this pause only to convince herself that I like having a lot of sex only with her, not with any other girl, I'll be glad to show that to her, but I'm afraid this isn't the motive. Could she be so scarred from the first part of our relationship? I fell bad saying this, but there were a few times when she was almost crying when giving me a bj. I told her that I regret that a lot, she might not believe me. I'm 22, she's 21.
I don't want to have a relationship where having sex is a chore for her and even tough I love her, I'd preffer breaking up rather than see her unhappy.
PS : the sex is great when it happens. She was with 3 guys before (one of them for 18 months); she rarely had internal orgasms when having sex and with me it happens 90% of the time so I won't blame it on bad sex.
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