[rjones92]

I broke up with my boyfriend of seven months today and even though it isn't very long but it has been the first relationship I have been in. I broke his heart and I knew from the beginning I would so that's why I put it off for long time. He has always been very dependent on me and extremely loving. He has always treated me like a queen and has always been there for me. I just recently started Uni and it has been hard for me as I found it hard to make friends and I get very lonely but he has been the only one here for me. I now feel like I have no one. There are quite a lot of reasons I had to end it even if they are all of my own stupid, pathetic reasons but I guess, overall, I have fallen out of love with him. I know it must be a selfish thing to want, but he has become my best friend and I really don't want to loose him now. He is heartbroken and I guess angry at the fact that I have been putting it off for such a long time. I don't think he will be able to only see me as a friend. I just wished I haven't hurt him so much, how can I make him less angry at me even when I just tell him I need to be single again because Im happier alone then with someone?

[Fr_Chuck]

You can't, if you lead him to believe the relationship was something it was not, he just needs to have no contact with you, and not even think or try to be a friend.

[danny001]

I'm going through a similar thing, my first girlfriend of 3 years doesn't want to be in a relationship with me and has broke my heart she wants to spend loads of time with me as just friends but also leeds me to believe that we will get back together one day wich I don't know if she is just saying this? Anyway I have never felt pain like this in my life and it has now been going on for nearly 5 months. If you really care about him you will leave him alone and not be in any contact with him if not he, like me will constantly be getting the wrong ideas and will have false hope of getting back someday wich hurts like hell when you keep getting rejected! It will be the best thing for him.

[simii]

Don`t be selfish please when you reject some one its very hard thing to accept for other person and you broke up with him because you were not happy with him and now you want him to be your friend because you are alone there in a new place and have no one there to listen to your story. Every time things won`t be they way you want them to be. He is hurt and in bad position you did what you felt correct so now just give him time to get over you to get over the love he have for you... let him move on in life and forget you for good... you are alone there but that dose`nt mean you will now seek your help if you think good for him than just let him be he is trying his best to get over you so help him in that... later if he over you and fine with being friends than ask him for his friendship... this friendship will just give him wrong ideas and hope of you coming back and will hurt him more. Go to college and try to make friends there its not that hard to make friends so go for that and help him it will be the best thing you can do for him.

[talaniman]

The best thing you can do for him is to leave him completely alone so he can accept the relationship being over. Anything less would be cruel. As for you, make some friends.