[Mattywill]

Hi guys, Ive been with my girl for a couple of years and the other day she said that after our lease runs out in a couple of months that she is going to move out on her own. We have been going through a tough patch as of late. Stressfull new jobs, she has been dealing with depression etc. She says she feels like the passion from us has gone and taking a step back will try and re ignite it. Im feeling very bad about this, she sais she wants to be with me for ever but I feel like this is a major steo back. She has also been saying that she is sick of me treating her like a "friend" I don't realise that I am doing this but it could be the case. I love this girl so much and I trully believe she loves me more so. Can her moving out make us stronger? Or is this the beginning of the end as I suspect? Thanks.

[serenemeadow]

They say absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Since she has decided on moving away for the best of both of you, I suggest you just let her go. Let this test determine whether your relationship is meant to be or not. She may just need some space for a while, then she could come crawling back to you, then hopefully you will learn that treating her as a "friend" is not enough and you need to play a more active role as the boyfriend.

They also say that women want to be chased by their men FOREVER.

[confuse84]

No it don't mabe needs space to think things through just be supportive and have faith in you relationship and if she telling you treat her as a friend believe it and talk it out and see what she wants so you both can work on whatever you need to work on

[answerme_tender]

Matt,

Honestly I don't know if it's the beginning of the end of your relationship or not. Usually when one or the other in a relationship start asking for space, blah,blah, its because they just don't feel the same as they use to and are ready to move on.

I would start getting a place lined up for yourself. I would not crowd her, give her some space to figure out what exactly she wants. Most of all, which believe it or not is one of the hardest thing NOT to do, is start acting desperate. Don't start smothering her by saying you will change, you will start basically doing whatever she wants just to keep the relationship. Because if it isn't meant to be, you are only going to look like a desperate begging man.

Show her that you want to keep relationship, but are not going to beg for it. Give her space, but maybe stop fighting over little stuff. Start maybe doing more around the apartment,etc. Act like a man that she wants,and loves, not a child she has to fight and argue with. (if that makes sense).

Good luck