[Lena4]

My boyfriend and I have been together for just about a year and we've been living together for about 5 months, Trust me, I know that sounds insane. But at the beginning of our relationship it just felt right and we couldn't get enough of eachtoher. He still says he loves me and kisses me, but not even close to as much as he used to. It hurts because I know I haven't changed since the beginning, I'm still as affectionate and in love with him as I've always been, but he seems like he is either getting sick of being around me, or he wants more space, or worse, he is falling out of love with me. We haven't really been happy for weeks, maybe a month, and we're constantly arguing because whenever I confront him about it he just gets mad. I never get ANY answers or explanations from him. The more I try to fix our problems the more he shuts me out. Lately it seems like he'll use any excuse to get out of the house and spend time away from me, when he used to actually invite me along. I love him more than anyone I've ever been with and I think if someone could just give me the right advice I believe we can work through this. Any ideas??

[Homegirl 50]

If you cannot communicate you cannot work things out.
If you two are constantly fighting why are you still together? Maybe the honeymoon phase has worn off.
You tell him that you guys need to talk because you are unhappy. If he does not care enough to fix things you have no choice but to leave.

[rdunaway]

When a man is finding a reason to leave the house it's usually he's tired of hearing your mouth or it's another women. If he's not concern about your feeling then he really don't care and has moved on, but don't want to hurt your feelings. My opinion is do what makes you feel good. Start hanging out with the girls, but put a plan in motion where you can move and it want be such a strain.

[Devorameira]

Communication is one of the most important things in a healthy relationship. You alone can't fix any problems. If he won't talk or try to work on it, there's nothing you can do except to end it.

It's impossible to know what he's thinking. Could be that the newness has worn off, could be that he's interested in someone else, or could be that he's just needing some time without you.

[talaniman]

My advice is that you find a way to make yourself happy beyond the relationship, by building a life that makes you happy without him. You are to focused on the relationship, and not nearly enough on yourself.

A job, or school is what you need, then you wouldn't expect so much from a stranger you happen to live with. Yes he is still a stranger, and you depend too much on him to make you happy. That's why you are arguing, and confronting each other, because your trying to fix things when communicating, and compromising is what you need to be doing, so you work together to the benefit of both.

And then there is the rushing into living together part with this stranger, before you both knew if you were compatible, or was it just lust, that has obviously worn off. That's what dating and getting to know each other better is all about, and you completely skipped that part, and it may well be to late to go back and fix things.

That's why focus on yourself, and what you do with your time right now, and if he comes around to help you fix things that's great, if not, leave, but for sure you cannot fix a relationship all by yourself, without his help! So fix yourself.