[sujju87]

Hello friends, I'm an engg grad in comp-sci who is in love with a girl of a diff caste, also a year elder to me... things got too worse when my parents got to know about our relationship... I'm stuck in a 2-tier dilemma... mom or girlfriend? I've tried all ways to convince my mom who is so hellbent on seeing me break up with that girl... I can't even imagine being away from her, let alone leave her! My past 2 years have been literally torture... I don't even wish to see my worst enemy go through that pain... her parents are starting to find her a groom as she's 24 now, and I'm still at the dawn of settling in my career... every time I think of all this, my mind turns suicidal, I draw a blank... *** anyone advise me in this regard...

[flowerchildfala]

What your going through is really hard! I've been in this situation where my ex's parents didn't approve of me because I'm from a different country but same culture, anyway long story short my ex didn't end up fighting for me or the relationship but instead he just broke up with me when his parents said no, he chose his family and it really hurts but I guess I just want him to be happy and so I've tried to accept it. Have your parents meet the girl? Let them meet her and show them why you chose her, because I think they are just afraid because love marriage is a change for them. Don't just let them say no without meeting her! I think if your really in love with her you will fight for her no matter what, otherwise if you don't want to fight for her or aren't sure then please let her know now and walk away and stop her from anymore hurt and wasted time then drag her through it all to then just go and break it off! I know a couple who's parents are both from different cultures and didn't approve of them because she's egyptian and he's pakistani and they fought for each other until there parents had no choice and now they are happily married! Just know that it's going to be really tough fight and you have to be prepared for A lot and be 100% sure about your decision!

[sujju87]

Yup they've met her but still they're adamant on their decision... I'll still fight for her, no matter what... sorry to hear your story of pain... I hope you find happiness back in your life... thanks for sharing my grief!

[qtu_sreedhar]

This is the exact situation I was in.
Try to get a job for you and keep healthy relationship with your parents and also her

Once you are in job and when you think that you can manage things then talk to your parents
Time will give you good answers than any one else

So be cool and have a good love life with your love and good personal life with your parents
Ignoring anybody will cause imbalance