[Som3Guy]

Hi guys.

I did a topic here last week about how things were going ****ty in my life, got some great advices and was able to move on.

Things went so great that in fact I met a girl, we became friends quickly and now she is coming to my house to play some video games, eat snacks and hang out.

I feel that sometimes she wants me to do something but I don't want to be disrespectfull or perhaps I'm miss reading her. I think it's the perfect place for the kill (lol) here in my crib because we will be all alone for a little while, I don't think we are having sex because she is not that type of girl.

But I want to at least kiss her but it's been a while since I done it (Like, 2 years, Yeah. I know) and I don't know when the time is right or how to do it (I mean how to first kiss her, I know how to kiss lol). When we stare at each other should I just come close slowly and try a little peck? Do I have the risk of getting slapped in the face? Will she hate me for it?

I'm having a hard time building the balls to do it. Help a man out :)!

[Enigma1999]

How long have you known her?

How long have you guys been hanging out, or will this be the first time hanging out alone?

[I wish]

Let's see how the night plays out before you make a move. Instead of worrying about finding the perfect opportunity to kiss her, just continue to enjoy each other's company and to build a stronger connection. The closer you get, the easier it will be for you to kiss her later on anyway.

[Som3Guy]

I know her for 4 years but we only got close this last month. We already went bowling together and spent some time alone but we were both embarrassed and nothing happened but we stayed hugged for a while and it was cool :)

[Enigma1999]

I know her for 4 years but we only got close this last month. We already went bowling together and spent some time alone but we were both embarassed and nothing happened but we stayed hugged for a while and it was cool :)

I think that I wish is correct. I would see how the night goes.

She may be the type of girl that wans to take it slow. I would respect her. Have fun with laughing, talking, and joking around. Also getting to know her.

Hey, and if she makes the first move by kissing you, well, then, go for it. SLOW though. Lol

Just remember to treat her like a lady.

[JBeaucaire]

I know her for 4 years but we only got close this last month. We already went bowling together and spent some time alone but we were both embarassed and nothing happened but we stayed hugged for a while and it was cool :)

You can help the situation out without jumping her. Next time you're in a situation where a kiss feels appropriate, do half the work to make it happen.

Look in her eyes, lean in halfway for a kiss and stop.

One of two things will happen:
1) She will come the other half and you'll kiss
2) She won't

Wait no more than a few seconds, then pull back to normal and laugh and say something to change the subject.

This is the best way to do it when you're shy while still helping things occur. Keep trying this periodically and eventually you'll get your kiss.

NOTE: If she actually pulls away from you when you only lean in half way, that's a sure sign she's probably not thinking of you in that way.

[I wish]

Sounds like it's going well. Just keep it going! Keep allowing this to unfold naturally.

[lilian567]

It might help to try something more innocent first, like putting your arm around her or holding her hand. After playing games one night, offer to put a movie on. If she seems into that, sit next to her on the couch. If she's into you, or waiting for you to make a move, she'll sit closer to you. Read her body language. It seems like if she was giving you extended hugs, she's probably into you, she might just be nervous like you are. Chances are if she leans into you or puts her head on your shoulder, you're in. Give it a few minutes, she might not know how to act right away.

If you're having trouble transitioning into getting closer, try this trick. Offer her a drink (or a soda) and wait until she puts it on the coffee table. At some point during the movie when she leans forward to reach for it, try casually draping your arm on the back of the sofa behind her. She'll no doubt notice this, and either she'll be into it and lean into you or she'll sit there stiff (at which point you should retract your arm and laugh it off). Otherwise try just holding her hand, which is a little sweeter and she'll probably appreciate the gesture of wanting to be closer to her without wanting to make out with her. Things will happen naturally, just make sure to respect her boundaries.

If you're good friends and you've known her awhile, you can also offer her a backrub/shoulder rub and see if she wants one. That's also a good way to breakdown the physical barrier and see how she responds. Stick to the shoulders even if she agrees though until you know she's comfortable!