[goodgirl4]

So I'm 16, a girl... and I like to have fun! I drink once in a while with friends but I've NEVER gotten totally drunk. One time I was at my friend's house in a different town, had the opportunity and took it. Little did I know that my friend's parents would be coming home soon that night. Next thing I know, I was passed out on their couch, my friend's parents leaning over me, waking me up and telling me my mom was on the phone. My dad had to drive all the way to another town and come pick me up at 1 am. From that point on, I lost my parents trust. I apologized a million times, and that night was not even fun/worth it. I was always known as the good girl and I had been "their little angel". I am the oldest in my family, so this is all new to them. My mom was more understanding, but my dad wasn't. I told them I never wanted to talk about that night again after that whole lecture the next morning with a terrible hangover. They banned me from sleeping at friend's houses and I'm afraid they won't let me see my campfreinds again because they are a "bad crowd". And to be honest, that was my first time drinking with that crowd.. at home at least. I even wrote a note to my freind's parents apologizing. How do I earn my parent's trust again and be allowed to sleep at other people's houses/see my friends again? Help pleasee!

[Jlesnik33]

To gain their trust back, its not going to happen over night, it takes time.. lots of time. Your lucky you have parents who care that much for you. Considering there are some that have parents who don't care and wind up in more trouble then they started.

What you really need to do is show them how responsible you are. Keeping your room clean, and helping around the house isn't a bad thing at all. Help with the dishes etc. these are just a plus. But really gaining trust takes time.

[Wondergirl]

Ask your parents how you can regain their trust after learning such a valuable lesson. Like Jlesnik said, knock yourself out doing chores around the house, ask to learn how to cook or bake, help out with any younger sibs. It will take time and a lot of effort to win your parents' trust again.

[answerme_tender]

Your parents love you and that will never change. You can help them get over their anger towards the situation by doing extra around house, keeping grades up. etc. Whenever you want to go out or spend night at friends they are ALWAYS going to have it in back of their minds what could happen. They might even get to a point where they will let you spend the night, but they will never stop wondering if you are ONCE again going to break that trust. Only you can really build up their trust by your actions to be given some rope, its up to you rather you trip yourself with it, or show them they really can trust you, and even get more rope of freedom.

[88sunflower]

Truly you should be thankful your father loved you enough to go get you. Thankful you weren't left there to find your own way home in a drunken stupor and god knows what could have happened. Did you ever think once to thank him?

Teenagers make mistakes. Its all part of the learning cycle. I am sure one day again they will trust you. But at the same time its heart breaking for a parent to watch these things. I am sure they were disappointed as much as terrified what could have happened to you. Understand the side of the road they are on at this point.

Maybe if you had a phone they can contact you at when ever they felt the need that could help. Not saying that's the answer. But trust will come in time. Until then you will just have to be the best you can be.

[dontknownuthin]

My feeling as the parent of an almost 16 year old is that I'd rather he be mad at me and live through his teens than that he feel "trusted". The amount of freedom he gets is in direct proportion to how he handles it. If he got drunk hanging out at someone's house, he wouldn't hang out there again unless I knew for a fact that adults were supervising and there was no access to alcohol.

You kids of course hate when we parents cramp your style by imposing limits - just as we hated it when our parents imposed limits. It's not as much about trust as it is safety.

YOu are way, way, way too young to be drinking at all, much less drinking to the point of passing out. Your parents response is entirely appropriate - learn from the experience and next time there's alcohol at a party, call your parents and say, "Dad, there's drinking at this party and I know you don't want me to do that so will you please pick me up?" If they see that you are making wise decisions, they will feel safer about letting you be in situations where good decisions are called for.