May I ask how old both of you are and if you are still in school?
How long were you a couple before the first break-up? How long were you broken up and did you work through the issues that caused the break up before getting back together? Am I reading correctly that he broke up with a second time because of something you did while you were not a couple? Did you at very least start to work through the issues that caused the second break up before you got back together?
You need to sit down and have a calm discussion about the relationship and your issues. Both of you need to be open and honest with each other and work together to rebuild the trust that was damaged by the first break-up and events after. He needs to understand that what happened while you were not a couple is NOT his business. He gave up any privilege to have any say in your actions, etc. when he broke up with you.
If neither of you can let go the past and move forward, then perhaps you need to decide if you should break up one last time for good. If you are going to continue to hurt each other, then you shouldn't be together.
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