[juicyjoy]

I'm a wife of 25 years with my husband, he started having a affair on the internet with a girlfriend from his past. I have proof that its true because of there e-mails,talking to her, her soon to be ex husband,banking... we have 2 kids. I'm a house wife that's the way he wanted it.. he is in iraq working as a contractor.. I'm in Ohio. He has been our income an now he is trying not to give us anything (money).. I'm lossing my home ,my bills are going to be shut off,we are broke!! I feel like we are abanded. He tells we will divorce but this has been going on for almost a year.. I don't know what to do! I'm scared that my kids an I will suffer... I have no money to pay for the divorce so I'm waiting for him to file.. what could I do to makesure we don't lose what we have ( my kids an I) intill its over?

[JudyKayTee]

You go to an Attorney IMMEDIATELY. Explain you have no money. Ask that your husband be requested to pay your legal fees.

Do it NOW so that your Attorney can protect you and your children before the situation gets worse.

[cindy81]

Hi,

In my country (in Africa) there are organizations that were put up to look out for the best interest of women and children, and they help deal with issues such as abandonment, abuse, fair divorce settlements, etc. I'm sure in America there are such institutions and you need to find out what is available in your town and get in touch with them ASAP!
These people will open your eyes to many possibilities that you were never aware of, and most importantly they will help you insure a financially stable future for you and your children!
D not waste any time.
It sounds like your husband undermines you and thinks you're not empowered enough to look out for your children and yourself and he thinks he can bully you ad you will take it lying down.
If he had any kind of respect for you or thought you were capable of fighting for your rights and those of your kids, he never would have told you about the divorce until he was ready for it!
You need to act now while he's still not ready and while he still thinks you're incapable of acting!
Good luck and remember, if you don't look out for your children's interest, no one else will!

[Devorameira]

You really have to see an attorney before he does. It's vital that you file for the divorce first and request custody of the kids. Do you have family and friends that you can borrow from?

If he isn't giving you any money you need to go to your local welfare agency and tell them what's happening. They will be able to help you out temporarily and may be able to get you in to see an attorney.

The money your husband makes is not his - it is both of yours. You deserve your fair share of it, so it's important that you don't let him withhold it.

[Fr_Chuck]

It has been going on for a year, so why are you not out working by now ? You get a job and start having some of your own money.

You file for divorce and if you have children at home, file for child support.

Money is not going to magicly appear because you want him to do right, it is only going to get worst as he is gone more and more.