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devika.malu · Oct 19, 2010, 11:12 PM

My periods started on 2/10/10 and it finished on 9/10/10.I am having regular periods(ie,between 28- 30).
Is it safe to have sex from 22/10/10 without condom.Please reply

J_9 · Oct 19, 2010, 11:13 PM

It's never safe to have unprotected sex. If you are not wanting to become pregnant it is imperative you use protection every time.

devika.malu · Oct 19, 2010, 11:22 PM

But there are non fertile periods.no.I want to know that

justcurious55 · Oct 19, 2010, 11:31 PM

If you don't want to become pregnant then like J said, you have to use protection every single time. There are certain days that you're somewhat less likely to become pregnant but the calender method is NOT a reliable form of birth control. How old are you and why are you against using contraception if you do not want to become pregnant?

devika.malu · Oct 19, 2010, 11:40 PM

I am 20 years of age... me and my boyfriend don't want to use condoms... please tel the solution.

justcurious55 · Oct 19, 2010, 11:48 PM

The solution? The pill. The ring. The shot. The patch. A diaphragm and spermicide. Take your pick. Go talk to your doctor, she can tell you about any I'm forgetting to mention. While you're there, get tested. And have your boyfriend go and get tested to. If you have sex without using any protection (again, the pull out method and the calender method are NOT reliable forms of birth control) you should expect to become pregnant in the near future.

J_9 · Oct 19, 2010, 11:48 PM

If your boyfriend doesn't want to use condoms there are quite a few methods of birth control. Have you considered getting on the pill? DepoProvera?

DoulaLC · Oct 20, 2010, 03:24 AM

If you are opposed to birth control, there is the option of natural family planning, but you have to know your body very well. It can take several cycles to know when you are most likely fertile and when you are least likely.

However, as was said, the only completely safe sex is no sex. Any sex, even protected, does allow for a chance of pregnancy. Certainly the use of some form of birth control will lessen the likelihood.

joypulv · Oct 20, 2010, 05:22 AM

To put it another way, getting pregnant or not is all about probability, the chances a million or billion women have averaged out. Not only is every woman's body different but she is different from month to month, regardless of how regular her periods are. You don't know where your egg is and how fast the sperm is swimming and what your chemistry is that day. There may be, for instance, a 15% chance of 'a woman' getting pregnant in some example you give, but what good is it to know that, even if it's 2% or 1% or 1/2%, if you are the one who gets pregnant that one time?

devika.malu · Oct 21, 2010, 01:53 AM

That is the problem... I am not yet married. How can I go to the doctor... we also don't want to use the pills since it has effects on the uterus... I have read that using pills can cause problems in the future from being pregnant...

devika.malu · Oct 21, 2010, 01:53 AM

That is the problem... I am not yet married. How can I go to the doctor... we also don't want to use the pills since it has effects on the uterus... I have read that using pills can cause problems in the future from being pregnant...

DoulaLC · Oct 21, 2010, 03:21 AM

For some women the pill is not the best choice, but you have other choices. Using a condom, for example, is easy and does not require a visit to the doctor's.

If you don't want to have the risk of becoming pregnant before being married, the only option is to not have sex until after you are married.

justcurious55 · Oct 21, 2010, 08:30 AM

Are you not in the united states? Where I am it doesn't matter if you are married or not, you're doctor will still help you with family planning, including birth control.
And I'm also curious which pills you were reading about? The pill isn't the best choice for every woman, and there are some side effects, but most of them are pretty safe nowadays. But still, like doula and others said, you do have other options.

And if you can't even talk to your doctor about birth control before being married, how will you talk to your doctor about being pregnant before being married?