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    Aug 19, 2010, 11:24 AM

    We're going to need a lot more information. How often do you guys see each other? How old are you? How old is he? What do you do outside this relationship? Hobbies? Work? ETC.

    How can we know if it's over forever? We don't even know if you two broke up. Maybe you should give him some space, you may be suffocating him.
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    Oct 17, 2010, 08:58 AM
    Mhmm... This guy kind of sounds cruel, but I'm insecure too and maybe you should have a long talk with him don't get aggressive, be assertive and tell him he better listen and use the threat 'if some things don't change I'm leaving you' Even if it hurts you too say that say it because if he doesn't care about you leaving then he doesn't truly love you or it might just get through to him, Maybe if you do end up leaving he might come crawling back to you? I'm unconfident myself but think to yourself 'He has chose me so I can't be that bad' maybe pick a day when you feel good and strut your stuff and try to seem confident within yourself, make him want to look at you. I say, tell him how you feel let him know what has to change and say you'll change too. Take control you're the woman your in CHARGE, you do the cooking,you do the cleaning you do EVERYTHING let him know who's boss and let him know what you expect from him if he can't meet them go off and do better-he sounds pretty pittiful, you never know if you try and take some control and toughen up and get your feelings across you might get a confidence boost and if these other girls are that great, why hasn't he left you yet. ;)
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    Jul 14, 2011, 01:17 PM
    Honey this is a perfect example of an abusive relationship. You deserve way better than a man who verbally abuses you and doesn't appreciate you. It seems to me that he's become comfortable in this rut and sees that you don't take any drastic action to end his torments so it continues. I would confront him about it and if he doesn't sincerely apologize and stop IMMEDIATELY it'd be in your best interest to pack your things and leave. It won't be long before verbal abuse turns into physical abuse. If he can watch you cry, know he caused you pain, and have no regret, he won't have a second thought against physically hurting you.
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    Jul 14, 2011, 01:31 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by MaddieJ View Post
    honey this is a perfect example of an abusive relationship. you deserve way better than a man who verbally abuses you and doesn't appreciate you. it seems to me that he's become comfortable in this rut and sees that you don't take any drastic action to end his torments so it continues. i would confront him about it and if he doesn't sincerely apologize and stop IMMEDIATELY it'd be in your best interest to pack your things and leave. it won't be long before verbal abuse turns into physical abuse. if he can watch you cry, know he caused you pain, and have no regret, he won't have a second thought against physically hurting you.

    Perhaps you should use this advice when you are dealing with a potentially emotionally abusive boyfriend. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/emotio...es-587464.html

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