[rosedr]

Well, there is this guy I met online... we started talking on the phone, and we met in the mall about a month back(I obviously was not alone). Prior to our meet, we spoke all night for a few days, and messaged constantly.. he seemed very interested. After we met, he wanted to "talk" about the future, and I didn't want to have a talk that early, and I was content with things the way they were, so I wasn't exactly proactive when he asked me... it pissed him off, and we didn't talk for about 2 weeks... I said sorry but he just wanted to leave it, and didn't contact me again. Then, 2 weeks back, he messaged me, and we spoke it out, and we got back together. He thinks I don't have a plan for the future or marriage, so he told me he doesn't either, though previously his view was different.. he still talks about living together after I finish high school and stuff and I don't know if he's serious about that. And now, ever since we got back together, he doesn't seem interested, and only talks to me when I call, replies only sometimes to my text, and the whole waiting for him to talk doesn't work.. yesterday, I asked him if there was anything wrong, and why there is this distance, and he just said he's been busy, and I asked him if we were in an exclusive relationship, and he said yes like he really meant it.. I'm completely confused right now... what is he thinking... I think I really like this guy... what should I do?
P.S I'm 17 and he's 22

[Michele_t]

RUN!! My Dear, and fast. Before you get in too deep.

You don't want to make room in your life for someone who plays mind games. You'll find that nothing will ever be good enough for this guy. The fact that he puts distance between the two of you after you didn't move in the direction he wanted, when he wanted, shows that he is using emotions to control you. Look up emtional abuse, and see if your relationship fits the profile of an abusive relationship.

[martinizing2]

Well put.

[martinizing2]

Kick him to the curb.
Talking about moving in after a few conversations is insane.

Him being 22 and trolling for dates at the high school is not good.
Ok that may be a bit of an exaggeration , but only a bit.

The last thing you need is an exclusive relationship... with anybody right now.
But this guy is bad news and full of bull$hit.

Don't call, don't text, don't FB, don't wave if you see him'
Unless it's goodbye.

The only thing here for you is pain and heartache ,

Dump him.

I wish you well

[martinizing2]

As a matter of fact... Very well put.

[I wish]

Sounds more like you're in different places in your lives. Timing could have to do with a lot of it.

I suggest you leave each other alone because you're obviously not looking for the same things at this point in life.

[jadedjade]

Yeah I agree with everyone else...
There are plenty of other fish in the sea and you don't need a guy manipulating you by ignoring your attempts to talk to him
I know you probably really like him but he sounds no good
Besides your only 17.. life is just beginning :)

[rosedr]

Well... its just hard to have as many abortive relationships. And you're right about the mind games. I just realized how much of them he plays. I think I needed to put it down to look at it objectively. Thank you so much for helping!

[rosedr]

I really thought this would work! But thanks so much anyway... it hurts to think he's not who he portrayed himself as.

[rosedr]

That's so true.. :'(

[rosedr]

Sure doesn't feel that way! Thank you so much anyway...