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    sxwolf Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 12, 2010, 09:28 AM
    My husband says having sex with me makes him uncomfortable...
    He says he feels like I'm his sister sometimes and not always attracted to me in a sexual way. We've been married for almost 3 years and it's been this way since we said "I DO." I don't know what to do anymore. I feel rejected and depressed and cry all the time. He doesn't even like seeing me naked. I'm 33, fit, dress well, and not bad to look at. Somebody please help... :-(
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    Oct 12, 2010, 09:58 AM

    Definitely NOT a normal response for a guy that age... I think its time he got into counseling. He has some sort of issue. Has he had a complete physical lately? Perhaps he has a low testosterone level issue. You shouldn't feel its you. You clearly didn't put on 50 lbs and let yourself go in those three years.
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    Oct 12, 2010, 10:29 AM

    Was he like this with you before you said "I do"?

    I can only guess you made love to him before you two got married. So how was he before? Did he ever mention that you were like a sister before?
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    Oct 12, 2010, 10:30 AM
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    No, he didn't... things seemed to change when we got married.
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    Oct 12, 2010, 11:41 AM

    Is there any chance that it has nothing to do with you as a person, but more to do with you just being a woman! I had a good friend that was married with 3 children and at age of 38yrs just came out of closet. Believe me when I say that none us had any idea. Not his wife, nor any of his family members.
    His wife asked why did he even bother getting married and carry on the charade for 15yrs! His response was that he wanted to have a family and he was affaid that his family would reject him and that living a gay life style would send him straight to hell.
    It is just another perspective only.
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