[stanluver720]

My boyfriend and I have dated for 6 months and for the last month and a half or so I seem to be getting more and more upset with him and I honestly have no idea why. He does everything for me, if I have a problem with him he changes it ASAP, he always buys me things even when I don't want him to just cause he got paid. I'm not sure if I'm upset all the time lately cause I'm annoyed with us being together all the time or if its cause he has grown up in a different household than me. We spend everyday of the week together, just about 20 min- an hour a day monday- Friday and usually all weekend together. He also grew up in a catholic house hold where his morals and his parents views on their children are a lot different than the household I grew up in. I grew up in a very open house hold where we were taught to have morals such as not to have pre-marital sex, but if it happened we were not frowned upon, our problems and mistakes are forgiven, but yet he can't let me or my ex's go. Im also his first girlfriend so Im not sure if I'm annoyed that he always wants to be with me or not cause I say I want time apart but after a day apart I miss him. What do I do? I don't want to break up with him, because its getting to the point where I want to, I want to work on it, but how do I do that?

(im sorry its so many thoughts jumbled into one)

[Devorameira]

Your boyfriend sounds like a great guy, but your comment about him not letting you or your exes go has me confused. What did you mean by that comment?

I can't see where his wanting to see you daily is that much of a big deal, especially since he isn't monopolizing all your time (20-60 minutes a day is minimal). Most gals would love to see their boyfriend everyday, so my guess is that the problem is within you.

What exactly bothers you about him?

[Cat1864]

Is this the longest you have had a relationship last?

I, too, am wondering what is meant by 'he can't let me or my ex's go' comment especially after mentioning premarital sex and religion. How often is he bringing up your past and how does he bring it up?

Is he really being as nice to you as you want to believe or are you picking up on certain attitudes and mannerisms that didn't bother you at first but after four months started grating on your nerves?

Do you each have interests outside the relationship that give you ways to relieve stress? Do you spend time with your families and friends without each other? Sometimes, relationships take over our lives without us realizing it and we need to remember that we are individuals in a relationship not just a couple. Having outlets for stress other than sharing with our partners helps us stay more balanced and better able to handle the little annoyances that occur instead of allowing them to build up and come out in short tempers and being 'rude'.

[beachloverjohn]

Actually you sound very spoiled to me. He sounds like he is working too hard at trying to please you, and it is coming off as a bit smothering. I think there should be a little compromise here. He needs to not be as much of a clingy needy person and you should try to be a little more tolerant of his actions. If he can't give you a little more space, there is a good chance that your relationship will burn out. So you both need to work on it a little, but if you find that it is too much work, then the relationship might not be worth it. He does sound like a terrific guy, but that doesn't mean a thing if he annoys you most of the time..