[nycentral57]

How do I get a married woman who is not happily married and also loves me to take the leap and fulfill both of our dreams.
She has been married for 28 years and still has older children at home (18-20-23) but feels like she is would be cheating on
Her children. I respect her concerns for her children because our children's mental well being should always be a parents first
Priority. I don't want her to leave her present living situation because her children still need her home to make a healty transition into adulthood. She is not happy with her life as it presently is. There is no real loving interaction between her and her spouce. We both know that we are right for each other, but the nagging thought of her feeling like she is selfish for wanting to be happy herself keeps her from even telling me verbally that she loves me. There has been no physically love between us only because of the guilt she suffers from being married. How should I proceed? What should I do?

[Enigma1999]

"how do I get a married woman to love me?"

You don't.

She is married. End of story.

[redhed35]

Until she leaves,until SHE makes a decision there is nothing you can do.

I would also urge you to not pursue her any more,she's married and not available to you.

She has made her choice,happy or unhappy its down to her to change the situation not you.

[Cat1864]

You don't do anything except back away from the relationship. Her marriage may not be good and she may not be happy, however, she has to deal with it. How she deals with it is up to her and her husband.

She is a fantasy. Her leaving her husband is a fantasy. Her ending up in your arms is a fantasy. Let the fantasy go and move on. Heal and, when you are ready, you will meet someone who is available and who you can build a real life with.

[answerme_tender]

Well geez maybe she will leave her husband, because she is soooo unhappy, marry you --do the love,love till oh wait she is unhappy again, but no problem because you will be sooo understanding when someother man is in the back ground willing and waiting to comfort her!! Remember what goes around comes back around!!

[Devorameira]

She's married - that means that she is taken... as in not available.

My suggestion is that you leave her alone and go out and find a woman that's available.

[nycentral57]

Thanks All good advice. I appreciate all the answers. (not like I didn't know what they would be anyway) I guess I just had to hear it from others for it to sink in.