[Mmmurphy]

Currently my ex husband has reasonable and liberal visitations. He has dismissed the kids several times, calling them mistakes, he doesn't call for a long time and then expects to see them. He is on drugs and alcohol. I do not trust him around my kids. Is there anyway I can make it so that he has no visitations at all?

[martinizing2]

This may sound harsh. And like I am taking a side here,
But I assure you I am not.
I believe that in a divorce the welfare of the children ,who s lives
You are throwing into turmoil, should be the primary consideration.

The parents need to do whatever it takes to make it easier on the kids.
Keeping a parent away , is not easy for the kids.

Why do you not trust him around his kids?
Is he abusive in any way?

How long are the periods between his visits?

What drugs does he use, and does he do them around the kids?

The sad fact is that even kids who are horribly abused by a parent, can be traumatized to be taken from them.

The children are always the ones that ending up getting hurt when their parents can't be adult enough to realize that both parents have roles to play and places in their children's lives.

And should do their best to see that the kids have the chance to share some of their lives with both of you.

Keeping a parent away from their children is a serious and extreme measure and should be done if the children's health or safety are are at risk.
Otherwise, no matter how you feel about each other, you should work to try and keep both parents in the lives of their kids.

You two have lost the love you had for each other.
The kids have not.
They still love you both, so if you fight around them,
Or degrade the other parent to them ,or around them
It can be damaging.

If their safety is not at risk from him, no matter how big of an a$$
He is, or you think he is.
The kids have a right to both parents , more so than the parents have rights to the kids.

For Gods sake don't let him around if they are at risk from him.

But for the kids sake, help him to be there for them .
No matter how sickening it can be for you to do so.

I wish you and your children well, and pray that you find and do what is best for the kids.

[ScottGem]

Please pay more attention to posting guidelines. There is a Read First sticky in the Children forum (where this was moved from) that directs questions of a legal nature to this forum.

Is there anyway I can make it so that he has no visitations at all?

Yes, you petition the court to end visitation. To get the court to do so, you will have to prove the father represents a danger to the children. This is very hard to do. Though proof that he is a drug addict and alcoholic may help.

I would STRONGLY suggest you retain an attorney to help you prepare a case. The attorney can tell you whether you have a sufficient case to get visitation ended or at least supervised.

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes, not sure what court ordered visits there are now, but you will need to get them modified so that he has no visits, or they have to be supervised by court approved people or agency.

You will have to prove he is a danger to the children, and prove he is on drugs, and prove he has a drinking problem to cause the children harm.

[Mmmurphy]

Thank you very much for your advice. I do believe he may be a harm to my children. He does marijuana, cocaine, and he drinks. He also has very bad temper. I am afraid that he may hurt them one day. How would I prove that he is doing these things?