[ahhhbsmaha]

Hi I am 25yrs old.. we are 2 sisters and am the elder one.
My mom passed awaya when I was 18 yrs old . Since den my dad and we managed evrything .
I am a person who never believd in any other avigations other dan my studies ,family and carrier... all dese love blah blah were nt my cup of tea... many pple proposed me in my collge and even at my work place. Bt I was nevr into it .
One day I met a person on a orkut we became good friends ,really good friends . He was pretty decent too. After abou 8 months of frndhsip I happned to give him my phone no. only after he asked fr it .coz that time I was leaving to another place fr work where I didn't ve access to internt ,so he felt that he needs my no, to be in contact . I gave him. Sinc den.. we use to talk on phone ( even till den I nevr saw his picture )..
Well after 1 1/2 yr he proposed me... though I didn't accpet frst.. bt later on I couldn't resist myself frm accpting his propsoal .and later after about 8 months later he revealed a truth abou him that he is one year younger to me. Which really broke my heart.. I was like in shock .and I thought of breaking the relationship (dere were many factors fr thinkng so )
Bt he was after me and he convinced me that age diffnrce of 1 yr is nt a big problem.and since den he was even more sweet and caring abou me.. infact I alwys found him more matured dan me in all aspects.
Now its be around 2yrs 3months we ve been in relationship .his parents knws abou our love and my dad was relucatant about it but later I managed to convince him (both of our parnts does nt know abou our age thing till now ) ,my dad accpetd our love and he is even ready to get me married to him . Bt his parents ar nt really intersted because of caste diffences (dey are little orthodox) ,am setlled in career and he is also settled .he has a younger sister and he can insist his parnets abou our marrge only aftr his sisters marage .bt my dad says it s being late frm my marge ,pple in my family are quite unhappy with the boys conditions and saying that he is being veryslefish .wen ll his sister get married and when ll he marrry you and aftr my marge I've one younger sisster who has to get married .

I see all messed up now... though iwant to wait fr him... bt the I'm feeling that am hurting my dad... im nt able to balnce my dad and my boyfrnd... I don't want to loose him and I don't want to hurt my dad either .my dad gave us a chance and I don wanto ruin that opportunity... he is also nt inetrsted in love and inetrcast marrige bt fr my happiness he gave me this chance.. and I don't want to loose it.. wat shall I do ?

[JudyKayTee]

Where are you? What Country? Family tradition may be important here.

India?

[ahhhbsmaha]

Yeahh... am frm india... I don't think anywhere else this kind of cast feelings are so very imp.. .

[positiveparent]

Sorry to break this to you, but text speak isn't allowed, its very hard to decipher and isn't allowed, can you repost in plain english please then we can help you. Thanks..

[talaniman]

From what I could gather this is really more about the traditions, than about individuals, as I would say get married, and have a happy life. For your father to agree to this is also not a small thing either. Maybe talking to your fellow and see what can be worked out as he sounds ready, but its his family he must convince. I think it comes down to how he handles it, more than anything else, and maybe this requires your patience as HE deals with his family.

[Cat1864]

Have the two of you met face-to-face? Have you actually met each other's families?

I think this may be the first time I have heard of an older sibling having to wait until a younger sibling has been married. Not to mention, a son waiting for a daughter to get married.

Is his family making demands they hope will break up your relationship with their son so they don't seem to be as against it as they really are? Is he going along with it because of family duty or is he having second thoughts?